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Okay, so let's talk about something that seriosuly sucks: When a friend tells you to choose between them and someone else they don't like.
Like... why do people do that?? I get it, maybe you had drama with someone, maybe they rubbed you the wrong way. Fine. But if I haven't had a problem with them and they've been nothing but nice to me, why are you making it a ME problem???
I hate being put in the middle like that. I shouln'd have to ''prove'' my loyalty by cutting off people just because YOU don't vibe with them. I can be friends with different typed of people. And guess what?? That doesn't mean I like you any less. It means I'm not here for pretty high school ultimatums.
What's worse is when they say stuff like ''Well if you were REALLY my friend...'' Like, no. Real friendship doesn't come with conditions. It's not ''be my friend only if you agree with every single one of my dislikes.''
I just think if someone truly respects you, they'll trust you to make your own choices. They won't try to control who you hang out with or guilt-trip you for it. That's NOT friendship, that's manipulation.
So yeah, if anyone is making you choose, maybe it's time for you to choose yourself.
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DJSng (PROFILE WIP)
It's so dumb to control friendships like this. Like this is blowing it out of proportion, trying to change who somebody is friends with. There's no point to it.
If I wanted to avoid somebody I don't vibe with so much, I wouldn't have made it somebody else's problem and hold my friendship at hostage with that person. If I needed to avoid that person really bad (like BAD bad), I'd cut the tie on everybody they know, problem solved and there's no way to reach me. I wouldn't go threaten another person to go cut them off, at most maybe I'd drop by with a warning warning -- "Hey, I had a bad experience with X, they were making me uncomfortable" and if they still feel they value their friendship with this person, that's not my say, I'll just let it go. If I was really your friend, I'd know that some people I know will be friends with people I don't like. And I don't need to change that.
It's just so dumb. Yeah sure, somebody might try to reach through friends of friends, but there's better ways to handle that scenario than "Hey, you're friends with this person, either drop them or drop me".
If it really mattered so much you'd just, immediately cut that tie. You wouldn't try to salvage the friendship by trying to change who they're friends with.
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