Why Romance is Dead

Or at least is dying out. I am a romantic lover girl at heart and always will be. I love the idea of bumping into someone in a book store, bakery, art gallery etc. and falling in love after you first glance and first conversation and then fast forwarding to an old vintage love story that ends with marriage and two old people sitting on a swing on a porch in a house they built themselves smiling and feeling content. But it feels so difficult now a days trying to find that type of fairytale love and romance. Mostly every girl in the world has daydreams of growing up in our princess dress and heels and tiaras. While Sleeping in your princess sheets and pajamas, dreaming of the day our prince will come and awaken us with true loves kiss. But it is unfortunately not the case at all for most women growing up. From my experience, I would say I had experienced moments of romance or fairytale-esque gestures but it’s always seems like it’s the wrong frog giving it to you and you know it’ll always be temporary the love and gestures. You question its longevity. No matter what type of man you talk to, where he’s from, what nationality, what background, zodiac sign, etc.. it all doesn’t matter, they all ultimately act the same at the end (disappointing & cowardly). And for me I feel it has been getting worse and worse over time. And that’s why I do partly blame social media, music, and tv shows that have promoted and began normalizing more behaviors such as cheating on your partner, having your friends keep the secret, not being tied down to just one person, the idea that the man shouldn’t have to do the most to get and keep a girl, women trying to act more assertive to uphold her boundaries but can ultimately ruin her perception on love for them through the process, men trapping women with babies and vice versa, and so much more! What happened to love stories like The notebook, Titanic, Fault in our Stars, even the movie Up?? I know the right person exists for all of us in our own time, and if we do the inner work. But it just makes me sad to see that I’m not the only woman or even person that is going through this and this same feeling. And I do think that it Is partly our fault as well. Women want soft nice responsible grounded men, but when they show up sometimes they don’t want them they want to the broody toxic one because it’s more exciting, and then men want to be the soft way towards women and then women reject them for a brooding man and they feel they can’t be soft or the “nice guy “ any more. And men have become so manipulative, egotistical, immature, insecure, and cowardly more and more over time. It’s sad to see but I just think we need to all believe in romance again and help this dying breed of lovers. You all need to work out your inner shadow work and know that the right person will love you for who you are and the wrong person rejected you is simply not the right person waiting for you. and each person the universe removes from your path brings you closer to yourself and to the person you are meant to be with. But I want to state that you are not put into this world to be someone’s wife or husband or lover. You are put into this world to find yourself and find out what makes you feel alive and passionate again and again, while helping others along the way. Another person will come and just simply add on and share your happiness like a puzzle piece that you have worked hard to have built for yourself already. 

Please let me know your opinions !! Love you all. 

-Your Modern Day Lover Girl 

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