Talking Stages

I feel like so many guys just do not understand how a strangers-friends-relationship is supposed to work, most of the time they completely forget about the friends part. Maybe it's just me. But every time I start hanging out with a guy that seems nice and friendly, he sees this as the "go ahead" to start putting the moves on me. All I want is to be friends and maybe once I really know you then we can pursue something, but the amount of times my friendly hangout has been ruined by an arm around my shoulder is ridiculous.

Earlier this year I was at a party, and my friend group was hanging out with this group of guys that were the same grade as us but from another school. It was the first time I had met these guys since my friend only just started dating one of the boys in the group. One of the boys in this group, we'll call him P, and I start talking about our interests and nerding out. I see this as completely friendly and platonic. But after an hour of all of us hanging out, one of my friends, we'll call her L, pulls me aside and starts asking me what I think of P, and obviously I'm confused. She says "Well we all think he really likes you." and I said that I had only met him an hour ago, he's nice to talk to but I don't know him. Throughout the night I kept getting questioned about my thoughts on P and it became clear that he had told everyone else his intentions and I was disgusted. The rest of the night was so completely awkward and I did everything in my power to stay away from the group of boys. 

Like maybe I want a guy who actually knows me and isn't just jumping into a relationship without understanding me, is that too much to ask?

Boys, do better.