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ughhh ok i feel like it’s time for me just to call myself bi but i really hate labels which is why i’ve been unlabeled for so long but realistically i don’t see myself being in a long term relationship with another girl and i feel bad about that bc my ocd tells me im horrible bc i want to use women for sex but i don’t i want deep connections where we make out and more…just not a relationship idk what you’d call that so ig i can still go with unlabeled. i just know i see myself with a man or man adjacent person and i think that’s bc of the way i was raised busy who knows 


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Lovely

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While I love being queer and the pride in the community, just like any community it is not perfect. There is a wide variety of debate on who gets to be what and what labels fit who and to me it just doesn’t matter. I don’t shame those who use labels cause sometimes it makes it easier for them to find themself but at times labels can feel restricting to others which is why I tell you do what you want. In real life you’re gonna find some people who have a problem with it but honestly for the most part you can go your day to day with no one even asking you what your sexuality is.


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DJ M.I.P.

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Honestly people just need that sexual healing.. why have a label?

Gen X had to deal with labels.. while dealing with the boomers and the silent generation. In 1979, there was a protest about the police and the LGBT movement at Oxford Street in Paddington. Now it is the Mardi Gras!

Now I am asking myself.. why the labels made possible? If you want to have sex with anyone, then that’s awesome! People shouldn’t judge!


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Max

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a lot of people already said it, but yeah, you dont need labels. just do whatever the fuck you want!


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red

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with how people talk online it can be easy to forget that you can live your life simply as someone unlabeled.. it'll come to you if you allow yourself to explore! you have your entire life to figure it out, there's no rush whatsoever, wishing you the best


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svtisbxm

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you dont need to label yourself. just live how you want to, the rest really isnt as important as it feels sometimes


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El Chivo

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I think that's why there's the "romantic" label.
Like biromantic, I personally don't get it but if you want to use bisexual as only the sexuality without including the romantic part, ig you can.
But if you wanna stay unlabeled it's also okay, whatever makes you feel better


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mars

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It could have been the same for the man. I mean you don’t need them for the emotional things, you may just want to have se*. And nothing more. It doesn’t make any difference when it comes to girls. So forget about the taboos of society. And just have fun just the way you want.


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Cr66pyp@st4_n_Sl3nd6rvers

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It’s ok you aren’t meant to fit the labels the labels are meant to fit you, feeling sexual attraction it’s ok it doesn’t mean you don’t care how they feel during $ex it’s just natural to feel $exual attraction to anyone

Also u can be birantic if you want


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Biromantic

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Amanda

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i feel the same about man, i just cant imagine myself doing more than sex with them


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Yeah same Lol

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Emo_Girl^^

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I hate labels too!! But this one might help: there is a difference between beeing biromantic and bisexual


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Charlie is here Bxtch!!!

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Girl I also hate labels , but you're feelings can change and if you want to you can even marry a woman in the future or they can not change at all , wanting to have $ex is natural you should not feel bad about it


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Girl i hate labels too, im probably bi but idk it is getting confusing i lowk love men and females both but idk i think i definitely need some more time

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☆♬kaena☆♬

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a little more context. i dont like people assuming id like them bc of a label thats one issue i have. but also ive never met a girl ive felt attracted to i just know id want to do stuff with other girls i think. i really dont know. and i feel so dirty since its a sexual thing, i feel like im disrespecting women bc i "only view them in a sexual way" which isnt true its just what my brain keeps telling me and it sucks. one of my friends did bring me back to realty tho...i literally have girl friends I KNOW I DONT J VIEW THEM AS OBJECTS but with my ocd it doesnt matter im so delusional ill believe whatever i want ig.


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heaven 🏳️‍🌈💚

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I’d call that a fear of commitment not a fear of labels honey. You want a connection, just not a relationship. Being bisexual isnt about wanting relationships with both genders imo I think it’s about having an emotional, sexual connection with both women and men.


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Lvn1x!

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U don't have to label urself, but I think ur bisexual and heteroromantic

U should look em up in case im wrong

I hope this helps a little


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AISTE

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gonna be so fr, u dont need to worry about fitting into a certain label as labels are just descriptors at the end of the day. not everyone will fit a certain standard or label. like me for example, i barely even use sexuality descriptors because ive struggled with mine for ages now, so i pretty much dont use a label for myself. the only label i use is that im non binary lolz.


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ashton

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sexual and romantic attraction are different things and THATS OKAY! as long as youre honest with the other person about what you wnat and what the relationship is, then theres nothing wrong about it.
it's okay to have "mismatched" orientations for your romantic and sexual preferences - for example, you could be biSEXUAL but heteromantic and thats OKAY! its normal.
but again, labels are just made up boxes we put ourselves in. we're human, we dont all fit into the concepts we've made up for ourselves :)


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max

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it's okay to not want labals, i don't like them either. also, it's okat to feel romantically and sexually attracted to men but only sexually attracted to women, that's fine and valid


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Daryl N

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Its fine to feel that way. Who cares? Its your sexuality, your identity. You deserve respect just like any other human who feels attraction. I would also call myself a bisexual, just no romantic connections with women. No shame. If it feels like there's a reason you're so against being romantic with a lady, reflect. Don't consider how it comes off or what people will think. Think about what you want and who you are. Since when has being queer meant making sense or being one way or the other.


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everything bagel

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label yourself however you feel. societal concepts have no basis in law or facts, it's some shit we made up because humans need explanation. i have a similar thing going on in terms of my attraction, and i just refer to myself as queer. but like i said earlier- its not law-meaning you just gotta pick one try it out and feel if it feels right, if any at all. p.s way more people defy the traditional structures of these lables than you think, and the secret is, you don't have to use any if you dont want ;)


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also this seems less like a label issue and more like an unresolved issues issue. i advise you dig deeper and ask yourself why you feel this way- not so you can" fix it and be straight or a lesbian"- but to give yourself some peace of mind so you can stop beating yourself up about it.

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Depon ^o^

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Hai!! Id suggest you try and see if you don't want any deep romantic connections with women due to residues of compulsive heterosexuality (I'm sorry if that's not the right term,but what I mean is societal pressure to be straight). Otherwise,you can be bisexual and heteromantic, or you might lack experience with girls. Still,you don't need to pressure yourself to fit into any box. Something you should be careful for though is that if you hook up with any girls,make sure to communicate the fact that you do not want any serious relationship for any reason and you're only there for the hookup.


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