The Last Romantics

Honestly, you’re probably right. Every generation looks back and romanticizes the past, forgetting the messiness that was there too. Maybe what never changes is that real love has always been rare, no matter the decade, and people have always longed for something deeper than the trends of their time

by twinklelore; 1751053301; Report

Yeppppp 💯💯💯

by Ilyas; 1751054271; Report

Absolutely, it seems like love today too often gets reduced to surface level things, looks, physical chemistry, suggestive content, while everything deeper gets ignored. And when the focus is solely on what’s flashy or instantaneous, it’s no wonder genuine connection fades away.Real love isn’t built on attraction alone, it takes time, vulnerability, and showing up again and again. When you care about substance over style, about what someone sees when no one’s watching, that’s when love feels actually real. The challenge now is recognizing and cherishing the kind that isn’t just trendy, but timeless

by twinklelore; 1751053053; Report

You honestly have no idea how much that means to me. Like really. I always try to reply in a way that feels, not just sounds real. Because when someone takes the time to open up the way you do, the least I can do is meet them there, fully. And the fact that you noticed that, that’s not just kind, that’s rare.It’s funny, you're out here saying I’m good with words, but look at you. The way you write, the things you bring up, the depth in your thoughts, it’s so full of awareness and care. If anything, you make me want to respond better, with more clarity and honesty. So thank you, not just for the recognition, but for being so real with me, it makes this space feel less like a blog, and more like a conversation that actually matters

by twinklelore; 1750908912; Report

yeah youre welcome, its just really nice to try and share a connection with people on here, i feel like its also way easier when both parties have the same pov yk?

by Jude; 1750946986; Report

You said it perfectly. Love today feels rushed, loud when it’s good, but silent when it matters most. Back then, love had more patience, more presence. People didn’t just walk away they reached out, even if it was messy. Now it’s ego wars and cold shoulders, not letters and understanding. I think the difference is, love used to be built like a home. Now it’s treated like a hotel. And you’re right, the older generations remind us that love doesn’t last because it’s easy. It lasts because two people keep choosing it, every day, even when it’s hard

by twinklelore; 1750909169; Report

OMG YESS
Nowadays, it's not even possible to trust people, because when you least expect it, there's betrayal
It's very, very rare to have genuine and pure love, like in the past!!

by Glitter Glammour💋; 1750952076; Report

Exactly!! Trust has become fragile because too many people treat love like a game with temporary rules. One moment it’s “forever,” the next it’s silence, secrets, and someone else’s name in their messages. And the saddest part ? People have gotten used to it, like betrayal is just part of the package. Real, pure love still exists, it’s just rare now like handwritten letters or undivided attention. But I still believe the ones who value it, truly value it will find each other, even if it takes time

by twinklelore; 1750952873; Report

Sometimes just knowing someone gets it makes the weight feel a little lighter, right ? I’m really glad this resonated with you. You’re not alone in how you feel, some of us are still out here holding onto the kind of love that’s real, intentional, and soft

by twinklelore; 1750909079; Report

but you dont have to have a lover to feel loved or to love, love isnt always romantic. i so understand where youre coming from, how about instead of relying on dating apps you could try meeting new people, whether through joining a club or a community its up to you! but seriously trust me i know you want that closure and comfort of having a partner but dont use it as a reason for your actions, sometimes you need alone time and cant feel the same comfort that you used to feel with people that youve known for a lifetime, but having a partner wont fix that, and if you did get a partner no one can love quickly, it'll take time, and men and women who say i love you really early usually dont LOVE you with all their heart, they like the little things you do, your habits, but its never love. i feel like poeple are forgetting how strong that word is and i might be one of them, whenever i meet someone new i always try to compliment them, then esp with girls you'll see an "i love you" thrown your way, sometimes i feel like it would be rude if i dont say it back, so i get pressured into saying it, but friendships and relationships are totally different, you cant just love someone instantly or say it super early on yk?

by Jude; 1750896769; Report

I just want you to know, I really hear you, and I think more people relate than you realize. Growing up in the digital age, surrounded by dating apps and performative love, it’s easy to feel like something’s wrong with you for wanting something real. Watching love in old movies can feel like peeking into a world that doesn’t exist anymore, and when you’ve never experienced that kind of love yourself, it’s easy to question whether you even deserve it, or if it’s even worth hoping for. But the truth is, there's nothing wrong with you for feeling distant from people or unsure about what love means. The world has changed, and so have we, and it's okay to step back and protect your heart. You’re allowed to want love and still be scared of it. You’re allowed to not have all the answers. And just because you haven’t felt that deep, soul level connection yet doesn’t mean you won’t. Sometimes the people who’ve never had love are the ones who end up loving the deepest, because they know its value, not through experience, but through longing. You’re not broken. You’re just honest and that matters more than you think

by twinklelore; 1750829602; Report

EXACTLY!! It’s wild how basic effort and real connection have become “too much” for so many. We’ve replaced genuine curiosity with dry one liners and ghosted anything that takes actual care, it’s not even about romance all the time, it’s the lack of compassion, the emotional laziness, I’ll definitely check out your post, glad to know I’m not the only one feeling this shift

by twinklelore; 1750828725; Report

That’s honestly so beautiful, it sounds like the kind of love this world needs more of. The little things, the effort, the presence, that’s what real romance is made of, you two are keeping the magic alive, and I love that. More relationships should be like yours, intentional, thoughtful, and full of heart.

by twinklelore; 1750828638; Report

I completely get what you mean love is scary because it holds weight, and you never really know what’s real until time shows you. But I still believe there are people who want the kind of love that’s gentle, respectful, and intentional, not just for the thrill, but to build something that lasts, those kinds of souls are rare, but they’re out there.

by twinklelore; 1750828561; Report

I know I’m replying two days late but honestly, I wanted to give your words the space they deserve, i read your comment a few times, and it really stuck with me. It’s rare that someone not only agrees but expands the conversation in such a raw, intelligent way. You’re so right, while we often romanticize the past, especially the 80s and 90s kind of love, that era had its own deeply embedded problems. Women were objectified in ways that were disturbingly normalized, and the power dynamics were often buried beneath the surface of “classic romance” , the brooke shields reference? Chilling, and absolutely valid. That era may have had handwritten letters and slow danced feelings, but it also masked a lot of pain under the guise of beauty and tradition, fast forward to now, and it’s like we flipped the script but kept the toxicity. Instead of fixing the foundation, we just repainted the walls, now betrayal gets laughed off as “micro cheating,” loyalty is optional, and manipulation hides under the word “boundaries" and like you said, it’s all being sold to us as empowerment, freedom, “just how things are.” It’s all noise unless you’ve trained yourself to stay awake, to see through it, that’s why your point about not giving in to propaganda really resonated, because protecting your heart today isn’t just about who you love, it’s about how you love, and what you refuse to settle for.And yes, it’s hard when you feel out of place, when people around you brag about things you find uncomfortable or straight up wrong, yet they still claim to be “in love” It messes with your head. But you're right, those relationships rarely last, because they're built on trends, not truths. Love isn’t something you should just fall into because you're bored or lonely or want the aesthetic of it. It’s something you choose, with intention, with clarity, and with respect.I really respect how deeply you feel this. You can tell you’ve been waiting to talk about it, and honestly, it’s refreshing because sometimes I wonder if people like us, who still believe in staying soft, loyal, real are just fading out but messages like yours remind me we’re still here,still tryin, still waiting for that kind of connection that doesn’t need to be performative to be powerful.

So yeah — maybe we are the last romantics. But maybe that’s not a weakness. Maybe it’s our quiet rebellion.

by twinklelore; 1750828420; Report

i totally dont mind the late response because honestly i wasnt expecting one this soon cause of how inactive everyone is on here (including myself). anyways dont worry about problems bigger than we both are, sure it seems simple, we see the problem but it'll be really hard to change peoples perspectives when we dont understand theirs, like okay i know that theyre doing it because its free will or because thats the only way they know how to do things but ive never been in such a situation where i can sympathize with them. all i can do is surround myself with people who respect my unease with these things. at first when you wrote that you read my comment a couple of times i thought it was cause i said something deep but i went back and omg im so sorry for how unclear some of my ssentences were, i was like way half asleep when writting it. i feel like people have no self control nowadays, lust is masked as love, this happened back then as well but like its so strange to see the way people have just lost respect and dignity, i feel like thsi also has to do with the change of morals through the generations, different priorities and self images, and now theres like a standard that everyone needs to meet, thats why we have tweens with a full face of make up. the constant connection with people, the need for approval and attention, this effects everyone, but when young tweens who constantly want attention have access to world where theres an answer to all their questions, thats when things go downhill. i have a little sister and i know that sometimes im not really the best big sister, shes going through that age and sometimes i just dont want to put up with her questions and need for attention, but she really is changing, and the people around her are changing her. sometimes its the community that surrounds you that shapes you, and thats why some people go through with relationships that they arent fully sure of, the need to prove that someone likes you and would be able to see you romantically. imagine the amount of teasing youd get as a highschooler whos never been in a relationship. oh yeah and theres like something that ive thought about like crazy, !!movies!! you rarely see an actor acting their age anymore, especially in shows for teens, like the amount of girls whove watched mean girls and thought they were supposed to look the same as those twenty year olds who were playing teenagers is uncountable, and they all seem to push the same vision of having to be sexualized to be accepted. its gone too far, shows always have to be dirty and have explicit scenes, i swear its so hard to find a good show without getting flashed.

by Jude; 1750896169; Report

Your comment honestly felt like a conversation I didn’t know I needed. The way you spoke about self control, generational shifts, media influence, and even your little sister, it's all so real and so layered. And no need to apologize for the clarity of your first reply, the sincerity in your words cut through more than enough, you’re right, we’ve reached a point where lust is sold as love, validation is confused with worth, and boundaries have turned into blurred lines, it’s all so noisy, so overstimulating, that even something as simple as wanting real connection feels like swimming upstream. And I really felt that part about your sister, i have a little sister too, and I see the changes happening in her, the way the world’s expectations creep in so early. Sometimes it scares me, how fast innocence fades just from being exposed to the wrong kind of noise, and like you said, there are days when we don’t have the energy to always be the “good sibling,” but we care deeply, and that care becomes this silent hope, that they grow up seeing value in being thoughtful, grounded, and real, not just liked.You’re so right about the environment shaping people more than we realize, even the relationships people enter become less about love and more about proving they’re "wanted." It’s heartbreaking. And yeah, the media? the distortion of age, sex, and identity, especially in shows made for teens, is doing real damage. How can anyone figure themselves out when they're constantly told who they're supposed to be before they’ve even had the chance to ask who they are? What I really admire about your words is that they’re not just critical,they’re self aware. You’re not pretending to be perfect, you’re just honest, you’re trying. And in this world, that matters more than we give it credit for.I think people like us, who still question the norms, feel out of place not because we’re wrong, but because we’re resisting something broken. And maybe that resistance is the beginning of change. Quiet, subtle, but rooted in truth. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and I hope both your sister and mine grow up seeing that being soft in a loud world isn’t a flaw, it’s a quiet kind of strength.Thank you again for sharing, these kinds of exchanges remind me that there’s still soul in this mess

by twinklelore; 1750907944; Report

yeah no anytime. its just that these things need to be talked about more. it's really nice to talk about these things because they need more attention. people are obsessed with the idea of being "woke" yet theyre still falling for all the traps set for us, of course its inevitable but if everything was toned down everything would be fine. if people treated social media like its just social media, i dont think any of this would happen. like i said this is all the result of the toxic standards we've all placed as a community, and with more and more time seeing peoples lives and staring at pictures sometimes we all forget that social media isnt reality, sure not everyone edits their pictures but the posts arent the persons daily life no matter how much they post. i feel like its also cause people never really accept themselves? like no matter how much they have or how perfect they are everyone always has this little hole which they think others online have filled, and thats how the obsession starts.

by Jude; 1750946839; Report

Totally fair to have different views, but just to clarify this wasn’t about idealizing a specific decade, it’s about a feeling that used to be more visible, effort without games, emotions without irony, loyalty without loopholes. Sure, real love still exists, and people still do sweet things, but let’s not pretend the dating landscape hasn’t shifted. Microcheating isn’t some social media invention; it reflects real patterns people experience but often hesitate to call out. The blog isn’t denying love today, it’s just mourning how rare sincerity feels in a world that often celebrates detachment more than devotion.

by twinklelore; 1750608909; Report

i get that we all have different ways of seeing things and that’s completely fair but this post was more about the feeling some of us miss in love, not about glorifying a specific era everyone’s experience is valid though and that’s what makes these conversations interesting

by twinklelore; 1750525606; Report

For real. if someone asked me what the most romantic decade was I definitely would not say the 80s.
Like... Those were the years of the AIDS pandemic LOL. Us gay people were dying left and right and many governments didn't give a fuck about it. So many people lost partners or loved ones

by Kie; 1750591538; Report

no this actually makes perfect sense and honestly i love how balanced your view is because yeah it’s easy to overly romanticize the past and forget that even then love wasn’t perfect and a lot of those “ideal” moments were just movie magic but you're also right that social media messes with how we see people and relationships like it narrows our lens and makes us chase these polished versions of love or partners that don’t even exist and your last point hit hard because sometimes we’re so busy looking for something ideal that we miss out on the beautiful, real stuff right next to us it’s not about settling it’s about seeing and appreciating what’s human and genuine instead of what’s filtered and unreachable and ngl this was a really refreshing take even if it’s 1 am lol

by twinklelore; 1750503788; Report

oh wow thanks a lot I had a lot of grammatical mistakes so I thought it would be a confusing read. ALSO TY FOR LIKE EXPLAINING MY NONSENSICAL RAMBLINGS AS WELL (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)

by Tai; 1750572202; Report

💐✌🏻

by twinklelore; 1750588075; Report

this is such a well rounded and honest take and i couldn’t agree more like yeah the internet didn’t invent cruelty or dishonesty but it definitely made it easier to perform without accountability and when that seeps into real life people start treating each other like profiles instead of actual humans and the way you mentioned how genuine affection gets labeled as cringe hit hard too because we’re in this era where sincerity is laughed at and sarcasm is the default and you’re right it’s not just the phones it’s the culture that’s grown around them the isolation the lack of community spaces the constant performative pressure it all adds up and somewhere in the middle of all that the soft real stuff got pushed to the side but people like you pointing it out that’s what keeps the conversation human and worth having

by twinklelore; 1750503742; Report

yeah it really feels like that sometimes like love became an afterthought or just something people say they want but don’t actually show up for everyone’s chasing distractions or guarding themselves so hard that they forget how beautiful it is to truly care and be cared for but i still think deep down most people crave it they just don’t know how to handle it anymore or they’re too scared to be seen fully and honestly so they settle for less or pretend they don’t need it but love’s not gone it’s just hiding behind a lot of noise and hurt

by twinklelore; 1750503689; Report

i feel like it isnt that theyre uninterested, i just feel like they dont have the patience anymore to wait for love, they want something quick and fun, thats why they choose lust or quick flings, because they just want the dopamine of the moment instead of a stable long term relationship, if you really focus you'll see its happening everywhere, like fast food (you'll get what i mean in a second). i'll just give a shortened example and i hope you can tie everything together, of you offer a group of people 100 dollars now or 20 every month, they'll choose the 100, if you offer someone a 5-dollar burger for lunch or vegetables for 30 dollars that'll last them the entire month theyll choose a burger, and so on

by Jude; 1750897791; Report

nah you didn’t write too much at all this was actually such a grounded and thoughtful take and i get where you’re coming from completely i agree that not all love back then was pure either and it’s easy to romanticize the past because we mostly see the highlights through stories movies or songs but yeah you're right every generation had its fair share of messy relationships too and micro cheating probably just looked different back then what really hit was how social media didn’t just change love but amplified both the beauty and the flaws like it brought people closer in ways letters never could but also made it easier to blur boundaries and compare everything still i love how you ended it because it’s true love hasn’t disappeared it just evolved and i guess it’s on us to shape how we carry it forward

by twinklelore; 1750503645; Report

i feel this so much it’s like somewhere along the line love stopped being about connection and started being about convenience like the magic got replaced with metrics and now people treat effort like it’s embarrassing or desperate and yeah the media doesn’t help either it sells lust dressed up as love and we’re supposed to just take it but real love the kind where you send a song because it reminds you of them or laugh over the smallest things or just feel safe that kind is still out there just buried under all the noise and fast paced nonsense we just gotta keep believing in it and not settle for the watered down version they’re trying to sell us

by twinklelore; 1750503551; Report

your comment hit something real because yeah we do crave that timeless kind of love the one that feels like home even when everything else shifts the kind where patience isn’t painful because the heart knows what it’s holding out for i think the tragedy isn’t just in how love has changed but how we've normalized the empty versions of it fast shallow and replaceable but people like you who still believe in the kind of love that leaves notes in lunchboxes or waits at train stations are proof that it’s not extinct it’s just rare and rare things they’re always worth the wait

by twinklelore; 1750503502; Report

exactly, everyone deserves it. it's a big part in helping our dopamine and serotonin hormones. i extremely believe that people should experience true, genuine love in order to feel as if it is deserving for others and themselves. i do not get how people could get hurt in a relationship to such extremes that they stop believing in love, it's silly.

by ashlee; 1750504382; Report