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Back in the 80s, love felt different. It was handwritten letters, mixtapes, waiting by the phone, and the kind of romance that made you believe in forever. Writers back then gave us love stories that felt deep, loyal, and magical, where people actually stayed. Where effort wasn’t seen as “too much,” and saying “I miss you” wasn’t something to be embarrassed about.
Fast forward to now, and it’s a whole new world.
We’ve got dating apps, situationships, and something called micro cheating, which is basically all the sneaky, lowkey betrayals people don’t count as cheating. Like secretly texting someone, flirting “as a joke,” hiding DMs, or keeping certain convos private because “it’s not serious.” And somehow, when you bring it up, you’re made to feel dramatic for even noticing.
The sad part? That kind of pure, intentional love from the past.... it’s rare now. People confuse attention with affection. Loyalty is just a story highlight. Communication has turned into “seen” with no reply. And vulnerability? It’s treated like a weakness.
Yet, here we are, some of us still believing in old school love. Still thinking love should feel safe, soft, and all in. Still waiting for someone who means what they say and actually shows up. Not just in texts, but in actions.
Maybe the world changed. Maybe love didn’t. Maybe we just got better at faking it.
And maybe, people like us are the last few keeping the real thing alive.
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MEN ARE SO LAME UGHHHH
𓆩⋆𝐗𝐱.𝐒𝐚𝐤𝐢𝟎𝟗.𝐱𝐗⋆𓆪
I just hope that real couples still write letters to each ohter, being a lady and gentelman to each other. But i'm not going to lie love is scary.. cause you never know if it is real what is going on or not and you never know how things will turn out later. But i just hope there are people like that out there and not just people who doesn't just want love to just do it..
Jude
i totally agree that people are slowly getting worse and worse, everyones normalized the wrong things, yes people might have had it somewhat easier but yknow back then everything was way harder for women, take brooke sheilds for example, she got groomed to make it big, women were even more objectified, and it was normal back then the same way that having a bodycount as a teenager is normalized in specific areas, but these things happened in their own way back then, hookers were a thing so instead of cheating with a "bop" they had speciak places for these things, and those places are still here to this day. the only way to truly have that romance is to stop yourself from giving in to propaganda, keep yourself safe and eventually you'll find someone as pure of heart as you are. when you feel uncomfortable around people who talk about all the things that theyve been doing and how theyre still in a relationship remember that it wont last, i believe that no one should get into a relationship unless they can see themselves spending their lives with this person, and i know some might say they cant determine such a thing this early on in life but trust me you can tell if youd like to give this person a chance and trust then until that future comes-- and like you shouldnt get into a relationship just because, theres never a reason for that! i so know wym like i completely despise people who normalize such disgusting things, because its setting the wronng foundations in relationships, instead of loyalty and trust its fake accounts as a form of "privacy", people take advantage of that trust initally placed by thier partner and manipulate it to their advantage, those people will never make it far and will never truly be stable in a relationship. ..could you tell ive been waiting for someone to talk about this?
Kie
"old time love" is not a real thing. You're just romanticizing an era you have no experience of.
People still do all those things you romanticize about the 80s. They still make each other cards and letters, still put effort in, etc. Just go outside lol. The whole "microcheating" thing is absurd and something I have always seen brought up exclusively on social media.
The stories of love from the 80s are just that. Stories. Real love relationship in real life were not that far off to how they are now.
Totally fair to have different views, but just to clarify this wasn’t about idealizing a specific decade, it’s about a feeling that used to be more visible, effort without games, emotions without irony, loyalty without loopholes. Sure, real love still exists, and people still do sweet things, but let’s not pretend the dating landscape hasn’t shifted. Microcheating isn’t some social media invention; it reflects real patterns people experience but often hesitate to call out. The blog isn’t denying love today, it’s just mourning how rare sincerity feels in a world that often celebrates detachment more than devotion.
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Simuel
.....????why do yall glaze the 80s so much bro love back then was as bad even not even more worse, esp if u were anything than a cishet white couple u were playing on hardcore mode when it came to love LMFAO
i get that we all have different ways of seeing things and that’s completely fair but this post was more about the feeling some of us miss in love, not about glorifying a specific era everyone’s experience is valid though and that’s what makes these conversations interesting
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For real. if someone asked me what the most romantic decade was I definitely would not say the 80s.
Like... Those were the years of the AIDS pandemic LOL. Us gay people were dying left and right and many governments didn't give a fuck about it. So many people lost partners or loved ones
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Baklava
trust me it’s only going to be worse, the things we do now are going to be seen as vintage in a few years
yeah that’s the wild part isn’t it like we’re out here missing the way things used to be but in a few years someone’s gonna look back at this time and say damn remember when people still sent long texts or made playlists for each other and called that love vintage it’s kinda sad but also kinda beautiful in a weird way because it shows how much we crave meaning even in fleeting things maybe it’s not about the era but about the intention and how much heart we put into what we do no matter the time
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Tai
I acc do agree with this comment, but i definitely feel like its a social media and who you surround yourself with. People always try and hang onto the past a lot which is fine but seeing that with a lot of things, love has changed. Its also good to realize 80's love was really not all that, and movie romanticized and gave us unrealistic standards for relationships. Not all couples have their kissing in the rain moment, but it's really nice to think they did. BUT i do think social media desensitizes and gives people unrealistic standards and dumb preferences for a specific type of person they'll never meet. But I firmly believe that just by looking left, right, up, and down instead of only straight ahead will help a lot of people stop seeing only what's in front of them, and be able to meet loads of cool people. SORRY IF THIS MAKES 0 SENSE ITS LIKE 1 AM LOL.
no this actually makes perfect sense and honestly i love how balanced your view is because yeah it’s easy to overly romanticize the past and forget that even then love wasn’t perfect and a lot of those “ideal” moments were just movie magic but you're also right that social media messes with how we see people and relationships like it narrows our lens and makes us chase these polished versions of love or partners that don’t even exist and your last point hit hard because sometimes we’re so busy looking for something ideal that we miss out on the beautiful, real stuff right next to us it’s not about settling it’s about seeing and appreciating what’s human and genuine instead of what’s filtered and unreachable and ngl this was a really refreshing take even if it’s 1 am lol
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oh wow thanks a lot I had a lot of grammatical mistakes so I thought it would be a confusing read. ALSO TY FOR LIKE EXPLAINING MY NONSENSICAL RAMBLINGS AS WELL (´▽`ʃ♡ƪ)
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CloverZZZ✮⋆˙
I feel like people have gotten a little too comfortable with how we interact on the internet and have begun to translate that behavior into real-world scenarios. Like, on the internet, you can anonymously say or claim to be pretty much whatever you want and receive minimal to no consequences. In general, you can be a total lying scumbag, and nobody really cares because... It's the internet, and therefore not real! But when you go so long spouting slurs and deragatory terms on every post you scroll past, you'll become desensitized to it. And like, OBVIOUSLY jerks were around in the 80s. I may not have lived it, but I've seen my fair share of John Hughes movies... But the internet has given incels/femcels (not to mention so-called "alpha-males"), a platform and people who will validate that behavior. And with the rise of cringe culture, genuine acts of affection, such as poetry, are now seen as corny. I don't wanna sound like I'm blaming, "those damn phones" or anything - there are obviously, other factors to this equation, such as a lack of third places and the overall economic and political state of the world. However, I'd say that social media and the internet are some of the biggest contributors to this problem.
this is such a well rounded and honest take and i couldn’t agree more like yeah the internet didn’t invent cruelty or dishonesty but it definitely made it easier to perform without accountability and when that seeps into real life people start treating each other like profiles instead of actual humans and the way you mentioned how genuine affection gets labeled as cringe hit hard too because we’re in this era where sincerity is laughed at and sarcasm is the default and you’re right it’s not just the phones it’s the culture that’s grown around them the isolation the lack of community spaces the constant performative pressure it all adds up and somewhere in the middle of all that the soft real stuff got pushed to the side but people like you pointing it out that’s what keeps the conversation human and worth having
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𝐽𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑠
Nowadays people are no longer interested in love.
yeah it really feels like that sometimes like love became an afterthought or just something people say they want but don’t actually show up for everyone’s chasing distractions or guarding themselves so hard that they forget how beautiful it is to truly care and be cared for but i still think deep down most people crave it they just don’t know how to handle it anymore or they’re too scared to be seen fully and honestly so they settle for less or pretend they don’t need it but love’s not gone it’s just hiding behind a lot of noise and hurt
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★rchid - lux
whilst i do agree with a majority of what you’re saying, i personally don’t think love has changed that much. i doubt that back in the day all love was pure and innocent, we treat it that way because that’s how it’s been portrayed to us and i think the same goes for love in this current day. i think there was and still is a lot of the innocent, affectionate love you think of, i think social media has made it worse in the sense that people have started to ridicule such acts for many of their own reasons.
i don’t think micro cheating is a new thing, i believe it was a thing even back then and it didn’t have the same name because shitty partners exist in all generations. they might’ve micro cheated in other ways such as idk going out to a bar and exchanging phone numbers leaving out they’re in a relationship(idk if that counts, js a hypothetical) social media has just opened up new and easier ways of doing it. i believe social media made it more accessible, more acceptable and easier to showcase those who have wronged someone. i see a lot of videos js randomly pop up on insta, tiktok exposing cheaters and that might skew someone’s view of love in this current time.
to end on a positive note (i may have written too much) i think social media has also helped love in some ways. social media allows for us to connect with people we might’ve never known they even existed, it opened up new doors for long distance relationships to make them feel closer with facetime and all that. but that’s just my opinion, i think your point was well made!!
nah you didn’t write too much at all this was actually such a grounded and thoughtful take and i get where you’re coming from completely i agree that not all love back then was pure either and it’s easy to romanticize the past because we mostly see the highlights through stories movies or songs but yeah you're right every generation had its fair share of messy relationships too and micro cheating probably just looked different back then what really hit was how social media didn’t just change love but amplified both the beauty and the flaws like it brought people closer in ways letters never could but also made it easier to blur boundaries and compare everything still i love how you ended it because it’s true love hasn’t disappeared it just evolved and i guess it’s on us to shape how we carry it forward
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ᴄʜᴀʀʟɪᴇ
i hate modern love, not only how hated upon it is to actually LOVE someone and put effort into them. Not only that aspect but how the media displays it actually revolts me! Love songs now are just about how "sexy" someone looks and how good they are in bed.. its nothing like the old wholesome love songs written by real people for their or inspired by their partner. In addition to my first point, modern love is careless and effortless and not in the way of people being able to comfortably be themselves, not caring what their significant other thinks because they know that they will love them for being THEM. i feel like modern day love is so dull, it doesnt have any of that silly happy moments that your meant to have, that you dream of. Anyway its honestly sad that we went from being such cuties in romance to whatever is going on now..
i feel this so much it’s like somewhere along the line love stopped being about connection and started being about convenience like the magic got replaced with metrics and now people treat effort like it’s embarrassing or desperate and yeah the media doesn’t help either it sells lust dressed up as love and we’re supposed to just take it but real love the kind where you send a song because it reminds you of them or laugh over the smallest things or just feel safe that kind is still out there just buried under all the noise and fast paced nonsense we just gotta keep believing in it and not settle for the watered down version they’re trying to sell us
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ashlee
definitely, that love has changed into the 'love from the movies' or 'like the movies.' the last ounce of genuine love we see nowadays is probably our grandparents, at least it's like that for me...i'm glad there are at least some people nowadays who view love like that, and also hate how our generation is based on "hook-up culture" and three week talking stages, it's not healthy or a thing that should be regulated. what should be regulated is the '80s type of love' that you stated, the picture of my lover in my military helmet while i'm off at war, type of love, the ones you see in the black-and-white movies, as well as movies in general, whether it's animated or genuine people. we all deserve that type of love, you just have to wait a little while longer in order to find it, however, i do know impatient people exist and i am one, too, but it will forever more be worth it in the end by waiting for our one.
your comment hit something real because yeah we do crave that timeless kind of love the one that feels like home even when everything else shifts the kind where patience isn’t painful because the heart knows what it’s holding out for i think the tragedy isn’t just in how love has changed but how we've normalized the empty versions of it fast shallow and replaceable but people like you who still believe in the kind of love that leaves notes in lunchboxes or waits at train stations are proof that it’s not extinct it’s just rare and rare things they’re always worth the wait
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exactly, everyone deserves it. it's a big part in helping our dopamine and serotonin hormones. i extremely believe that people should experience true, genuine love in order to feel as if it is deserving for others and themselves. i do not get how people could get hurt in a relationship to such extremes that they stop believing in love, it's silly.
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uncleonion♪
meanwhile people in the modern day see someone with affection as someone being 'easy'... just another face in the crowd of attention theyve got...
Frrr....
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𝓟𝓡𝓘𝓝𝓒𝓐🎀
This is the kind of love I give to my husband . It’s literally such an amazing feeling . I encourage you all to do what makes you happy and don’t let today’s society ruin your thoughts on love
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So happy for you , and best of luck 🍀💐
by twinklelore; ; Report
thank you , sending lots of love your way♡
by 𝓟𝓡𝓘𝓝𝓒𝓐🎀; ; Report
XxAshxX
I yearn for that "old traditional" type of love SO and. I want to be dedicated songs, gifted flowers, written letters oh man (｡•́︿•̀｡)
I hope you'll find it 🍀
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Zack:3
i found love like this, now i just hope he stays
It'll, best of luck 🍀
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theboogeyman
We can only hope
Yeah 🍀
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BULLET
I've been tastefully disproven about the idea that not many are left who enjoy this old kind of love. It's really given me hope, knowing that these people can be found within certain cultures, hobbies, and communities. Don't lose your faith in this relationship existing!!
Ur right , we shouldn't lose hope 🍀
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⚔︎CB_Dantelover♰
ook words right of my mouth.But hey since we know there are still many who agrees with this post so..I am keeing my hopes high to think that I will get a partner who thinks like this.
I hope you'll 🍀
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Minxxx
Love in the 80s felt real and different. People used to wait for the one they loved. Their love was pure, full of trust. Loyalty wasn’t asked for it was just given. Love back then had power and meaning.
But today, I feel sad saying this... most people don’t like to wait. They want things fast.
But waiting isn’t a weakness—it shows strength. It means we’re willing to stay, to not give up, and to keep showing up.
I’m not saying I believe only in the 80s kind of love.
I just think we don’t need to copy the past. We should want something better.
Not love that’s rushed or just for a moment, but love that’s fresh and real.
Not like a flash of light but like clouds, coming slowly, but surely.
Something that stays.
Yeah....
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