Obsession = love ? (autoplay)

Hii everyone i hope you are all feeling swag... today i am gonna talk about something that i have came across, and i need to let my thoughts out. we are gonna talk about love... or more likely, obsession... hell yeah... literally HELL yeah... (also notice how the layout is so in theme right?? HIM is literally my religion btw)

OKAY SO lately, i have noticed people (mostly online... i wonder why...) wanting someone to be obsessed with them so badly, like 24/7 communication, stalking/tracking, anxious attachment, possession, etc. But trust me it's not what you think, you only see the aesthetic side of it. It seems pretty delicious but it is actually stinky shit disguised as a strawberry cake. This person ruined me and made me irreversible changes. I literally had to ask for someone to help me get away from this person. 

An obsessed person doesn't respect your boundaries, crosses your limits, doesn't respect your personal space, freaks out at every single change, is threatening, manipulative, possessive and jealous. I literally had their life and health between my hands. Obsession is unhealthy and most of the time its extremely hard to get out of this situation, and when you do, you most likely end up traumatized. the nightmare is not over, and if you actually get rid of this person after cutting contacts, congrats, because they are holding on to you so tightly and will do anything for you to come back. They NEED you so desesperately. And dont even DARE to try to tell me that is attractive - seriously, get help. 

Being obsessed with you is not loving you! Someone who's not obsessed with you doesn't mean they dont love you - that's even the opposite, obsession ≠ love, as i said. I am hopefully now in a healthy relationship, with communication, care, and respect of boundaries. It was so hard in the beginning because i had implemented the behavior of this previous person. But with proper communication, patience, genuine love, imposing boundaries, i have never felt so comfortable in a relationship. A relationship is being and sharing with someone you deeply love, not someone you lay all your emotions, personality, health and behaviors on. You should not define yourself by your relationship. They should not be your whole life, not the only thing you focus on, not your reason to live. Trust me being obsessed with is so exhausting and draining, and being obsessed too. SO um stop romanticizing obsession because im gonna hit my head real hard against the wall :D obsession is a sickness and it is not healthy. Its not that one 7 feet tall white vampire bf u see in dark romance stories.

And seriously. Remember to COMMUNICATE and to set BOUNDARIES with your partner that is SO important! And if you do not know how to, you can always look for a few tips on the internet, loved ones, etc. And of course you can especially talk to your partner about the fact that you do not really know how to communicate, you will learn through together, dont worry. (I also hope your partner will do the same with you... you deserve it too...)

I am also thinking about making a blog on why obsession is depicted as attractive and the only form of real, sustainable love.

Anyways thx for coming to my ted talk have a great day...