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today i met up w a friend from high school. for context he's a year older than me and im doing my last year of high school online. So me and xxx were friends and had been prom dates. with it being prom season, it made me think of mine last year. i was a total dick and kept trying to impress the boy i liked instead of focusing on the boy the liked me, my date, xxx. I reached out to xxx a couple days ago and apologized and he responded, and we made up. Ive been on a date with xxx before but he's very awkward and shy like me so it never led to anything more. Today we went to the mall and hungout as friends. I can tell he has feelings for me but i just dont feel the same way. i really want to be friends with him but i dont want to lead him on. Hes a really sweet boy and he deserves someone that can treat him as well as he treats me. i dont even know how to procced...
need general relationship advice
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Cursed Capital
I'll keep this short. Become his wingman and help him find his gf. Ask the questions that he's too awkward to ask, like if someone likes him or not, like an emotional shock absorber. And if you can find someone for him it'll help him get over you and move on, and possibly the chance to actually keep him as a real friend.
twinklelore
It’s really beautiful that you’re being this self aware and considerate of his feelings, most people overlook that. It sounds like you genuinely care about him as a person, and that’s what makes this so difficult. The truth is, being honest with someone you don’t have romantic feelings for, especially when they clearly care about you, is one of the hardest but kindest things you can do. Love, whether romantic or platonic, deserves clarity, not confusion. If you truly want to keep the friendship, it’s okay to let him know gently but firmly that you care about him deeply, just not in that way. It might hurt him at first, but being honest protects both of you from more pain down the line. Let him know you value his presence in your life and want to continue being there for each other, just in a different way. Sometimes the kindest love we offer someone is the one that sets clear boundaries while still honoring their heart. You’re doing better than you think, you’re growing, reflecting, and choosing integrity. That’s real emotional maturity.
thank you so much i think i really needed to hear that
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