Assosciations

Associations

“Heard about the man that fell off a skyscraper in love? On his way past each floor, he kept saying to reassure himself<< so far so good, so far so good…so far so good>>” – quinoa 

It is interesting how the odds work, isn’t it? Like just today I was talking with one of my important people in my life at the moment about jumping from a skyscraper or from a cliff. And then I came across this quote, which was embodying my today’s thoughts. He kept asking, ”Why would depressed people like such a painful death?” But I have another question for you: Why do we associate love with falling? 

It’s interesting how the human mind enjoys and romanticizes the ego’s decline in such a manner that even the happy feelings would become something to suffer from. What makes the healthy man and the depressed one different from each other if they both like falling? It might be the same feeling of freedom and peace that the word “falling” embodies. For a man who despised life and felt like he was living in hell on earth and for a man who knew it would end badly at the end of “falling in love", the falling part, the action in its meaning, could illustrate the same thing for both of them: a last good calm before the storm. 

So just as the quote says, falling in love might just be like falling off a skyscraper because, you see, when you are with your person, you are telling yourself, “This is good; this is where I want to be”, just as the person falling down near a big building is telling himself, “ I feel much at ease with each floor I am leaving behind me,” and “I feel much at ease with each day that I choose to fall for you”. So back to the question: Why do we associate love with falling? I think that this word associated with love is making us as humans feel deeper, much more sincere, since it might be our last moments together. You might get the feeling that you do not have enough time to live this feeling for a long time, but you feel free when you do it. But then again, I have one more analogy for you about this vast-of-meanings word, love.” 

One question that I would ask myself at least once a year... Why is love associated with spring? One of the reasons that I could think of was because of flowers. Love can be something that blooms the same as flowerets. But isn't that superficial and a bit sad at the same time? Think about it. When autumn comes and drains the life out of the blooms in a long, painful process, by the time winter is settled, the only thing that is left is their roots.

So with that in mind, if you love someone's flowers, not taking into consideration their roots, what will you do when winter comes? Will you go away in your hibernation state and leave the seasonal characteristic cold to perish, or will you stay? Will you start to move again when the shy coy tussles of the lifeless-looking roots are back? Only then will you wake up to love the flowers again? Are you also seasonal like the mood of human beings when the winter depression settles in their hearts?

If it is because of flowers that you want to stay, then I'll make my roots cold enough so that winter's flowers could have a place to fall on. Then you will be able to love the roots even in the winter. Even though I will not be the same because of the coldness in my veins, you would be the one happy that you are surrounded by moments of spring even in winter. But when spring comes again, the roots are too frigid, and their beautiful tussles won't make an appearance this time. And by the time spring settles in, you are gone again. 

Well, I guess that this is spring love. Where the profound feelings that one has for flowers become the seasonal mood for spring and perish once the roots are revealed, leaving them vulnerable and desperate for warmth and... love.

So I am asking you, the one that reads this small piece of writing, what should we as humans associate love with? With spring, but risking being superficial when it comes to loving, or with falling, meaning to love profoundly but knowing for a fact that it will be your decline eventually?