MANIPULATION.

Hello everyone! lilysanee here.

Many of us have had certain experiences which we could've handled in a better way. For me it was the time when i was being manipulated by other people. I had no one to help me and i had to go through it all by myself. But right now it feels like i'm glad it happened. Not because it was a pleasant experience but i wouldn't be where i am right now if i never experienced that. From a small age, we as kids all were taught to not trust strangers because they are bad people and can harm us. But no one really taught us to be beware of people close to us. So when we first experience manipulation, we are often oblivious. To be more precise, naive.

1. Naive

It is not a bad thing to be naive. It's the consequences along with it which makes it terrible. That is, being exploited. Being native is a curse in this generation. They are the ones who are being taken advantage of easily. I am someone who believes in being kind and trusting. I thought that being kind and forgiving would just make people love me. But little did i knew that it wasn't helping me. I was constantly attracting the manipulative people or the rest thought i was putting on an act. It is really important to be kind but also to make sure that we aren't being used by anyone. And the best way to know if we are being used is our intuition. 

2. Intuition

Everyone has an inner voice. But we don't think that it is important to listen to that voice because sometimes what it's telling you may make you feel unhappy. Or sometimes we know that the feeling is true but we're too afraid to act. We become so comfortable and fond of the situation that moving on just feels impossible. We were always taught to listen to others opinions but never our own. Inner voice is nothing but just the reaction of your body and mind towards the energy you're interacting with. If you're strong enough to suppress that voice, then trust me you're strong enough to move out of the situation. If you ever feel odd about a particular situation, never let others convince you otherwise. Never let anyone else dominate your thoughts.

3. Domination

Letting others dominate you or make decisions of your life is a big harm. It is mainly because, as a child you were never given a chance to form your own opinion. Your parents never valued about your opinion and always made decisions in your life. And now you struggle with making your own decisions. You simply decide to do what others tell you. And this makes it even more easy to manipulate you. To break free from this, start observing the people around you. Listen to what others have to say, notice what they consider before making decisions and then mirror them and use it for your own good. 

4. Boundaries

Not being able to set boundaries is what people pleasers usually struggle with. Because for them avoiding conflicts and maintaining peace is more important. So they just never set boundaries and even if they do, they back out from the decision just by seeing slight hint of inconvenience in the other person. But you need to understand that if the person truly respects you they'll also respect your boundaries. It is always these manipulative ones who try to make you feel guilty on having boundaries. They will convince you out of these boundaries make make you feel it's the normal thing. And when you don't have boundaries, you eventually start to lose who you really are.

5. Losing

Losing yourself is the worst part. You'll feel lost and drained. But you have to be really strong mentally during these times. Never lose hopes in yourself and trust your own beliefs and intuition. If you're stubborn to make change, change in a good way. Make yourself wise and sophisticated that no one has the power over you anymore. Don't be ashamed to admit that you made a mistake. Be proud that you learned from it. Being more wise and independent makes others respect you. When don't give those manipulators the power over you anymore, they'll be afraid to control you like in the past. 

Always keep knowledge about how people try different ways to manipulate. Not to use it but to avoid those traps. I experienced it to learn all this but not everyone has to. Hope this helps :) If you liked my blog check out the others as well, if it's helping you in any way i'll be glad. Comment down your thoughts in this. I'm all ears to hear you opinions.