My relationship crisis PART 2

As before, all hate/negative comments will be deleted. This is my safe space, and if you don't have anything positive to say, just scroll down

Sooo my (now ex) boyfriend and I broke up, we talked, but ultimately I wasn't having his solutions, so we both knew what that meant. And honestly, I felt great, like the weight of this decision to end this relationship and the need to decide my future was finally taken off my shoulders. I went out for a smoke and the night looked so perfect, I realised how much I enjoy my own company, and have that in mind that it can change any day, but I was so happy. 

So today he texted me that with a document that he made about that living in his country would be better (like wages, rent and all that shit) and we talked again. I guess he kinda made sense, but I don't want to sacrifice my future and change my plans for someone. I will sound like a dick here, but I know my walue, I know I can life a good live in my country with someone here. Why would I risk it all just for A MAN?? 

And come on, I'm 19, he is 20, we don't have a loan, kids, or anything that would make us stay together just for the sake of it (only his Spotify that I still have to give him back). I been broken up before, I know how it is, fucking horrible, but I also know that in every relationship I've been before, I wanted to break up but I was scared to do so. And the day I was finally able to put my foot down, man, it's great. 

So now, I'm single, I'll wait before I get into any relationship, situationship. I'm planning to discover myself for a little bit, get my uni degree, and see where my life takes me.

I got three pieces of advice for anyone who/is in a similar situation:

1. There are no right or wrong decisions; you make a choice, and the universe reacts to it.
2. If you are thinking about breaking up with someone, listen to yourself. If you only want to do it in similar situations, like always after a fight or when in a difficult situation, then you probably shouldn't break up; talk to them and figure out the real problem. If no matter what happens, you want to break up/feel sick to be around them, then you should go for it.
3. Change is difficult. Why do you feel the need to do it harder? Don't be dramatic, don't throw away all of their stuff, no, no, no. Change takes time, start small, take off your shelf their things, pack them away, out of sight, out of mind. You can rip off the band-aid, but you can also wash it off or use oil; not all changes have to be done quick and painfully. Don't let others (even me) tell you how to manage your emotions.

Oh and also THERE IS NO NEED TO TELL PEOPLE ABOUT IT IF YOU ARE NOT READY YET!!!

Bye-bye divas, and as always, your positive comments are welcome!