complaint #2 and ranting

complaining round #2 and fake deep round #1 fight 

i HATE insensitive people. hate. there’s a difference from people with naturally low empathy and people who are insensitive.

i am blunt, and brutally honest, which im trying to work on. i heard this thing once that kindness without honesty is just as bad as honesty without kindness, and it made me change my viewpoint on being all “no matter who’s feelings it hurts i should be honest!” 

because even if you are honest, people’s feelings at the end of the day do matter, and you being all macho and being okay with being rude to those you know don’t deserve it, makes you not honest, but an ignorant asshole. i was once an ignorant asshole, still am, a little bit. but as i said im working on it.

i never understood being kind with honesty at first, i kinda just did it as a kid because its what you were taught. be nice but be real. hmmm. but as you know, once kids grow, they start to be all questioning of those in power, those who taught them everything.

that was me! i was like; well what’s the point in being kind if you need to be honest? why should i have to hide the truth behind kindness? that’s the question i always asked. but you don’t have to. you can be blunt, but kind. you can be serious, but kind. it just takes the right wording.

the reason i thought i hate insensitive people is because i thought they never grew up and realized that. they never realized how being rude can hurt someone’s feelings. but that’s simply not true. insensitive people strive to hurt sensitive people, and THATS why i hate them. because that’s fucked up. 

if you know something would hurt an innocent person, why say it? and don’t say “because they’re annoying, yada yada” because that means they DID deserve it (mostly if annoying on purpose) and they’re not innocent. there’s always exceptions for things, as well with being kind. you can be rude to your friends as a joke, obviously, but not everyone will be okay with you calling them a name or saying something to them.

and even if it feels stupid, you should respect people’s boundaries. even if you don’t like them. i was told by a white person to not call them the n word and i was really confused?? because first, my thought process went like this

1. but they’re literally white

2. but i wasn’t using it in a rude way, or i wasn’t trying to?..

3. i’m part black, so what’s the issue?

but now, looking back, being older, you should just accept what people tell you. if you’re curious on why, ask, but don’t expect everyone to be okay with what you do. if you expect that, you’re asking for too much.

they shouldnt have to explain to you why theyre uncomfortable, because a lot of the times people have no reason on why, it just feels uncomfy. so, listen.

show kindness, show honesty. show love, thanks.