Motherhood

Motherhood is a Crazy, emotional, and at times, Chaotic adventure that no one can fully prepare you for. Yes, it is true there are books, blogs, and classes that you can take but, each Pregnancy, birth, and Child is different. What works for one may not work for the other.

As a mother you are constantly thinking about how to be a better mother. You are swamped with thoughts of inadequacy and the fear that you will somehow mess up your child. You read all the Parenting articles you can. You find yourself second guessing a lot of your decisions. You internally battle about whether you are making the right decisions for your child’s future. You also put your dreams and ambitions to the side. You sacrifice and don’t give it a second thought. You are in a mindset that your kids come first in everything. Somehow, you convince yourself that everything you are sacrificing is ok if your child is happy and healthy. This way of thinking is wrong. You must nourish your mind, body and soul so that you can be a better parent and person for both of you. If you sacrifice too much of your time and dreams, you risk the possibility of resenting your own child. You must balance your health and happiness along with your child’s. A lot of Mothers struggle with this. I was one of them. Although my children are Adults now, I still catch myself sacrificing my mental health due to a mothers worry. I still aim to aid my children in every way possible. I do this through, stressing for them, cooking and cleaning for them, running baths for them, and even setting out their clothes for them. Although my Children tell me constantly, it is not necessary, I am still stuck in mommy mode. I can’t help it. I long to be of service to my children. I am not a Smoother, but I will be there for them and help them in any and all way that I can.

I guess once you are a mother, you are always a mother in mind, body, actions, and spirit. When our kids hurt, you hurt. When our kids are sad you are sad. It’s almost as if you are twins in emotions. When someone hurts your kids, you are ready to fight with borrowed strength. I guess that is the way it was meant to be. A Mothers love for her children is indeed unconditional. We can overcome heartaches and wrong doings and be there when our babies need us. Mothers are truly magnificent through design. Here is your reminder to call your mother and tell her how much you appreciate her. Let her know that it couldn’t have been easy raising you and that you appreciate all the Sacrifices that she did for you. Tell her that you can never repay her for all the love, support, and restless nights, but you would like to try. 

If you didn’t have a good and caring mother, I am truly sorry. If your mother couldn’t stay around for you and be there for you when you needed her. I am sorry. If she found out that you are different than she expected or that you are not what her religion states you should be, I am sorry. If she couldn’t embrace all of you as you are, I am truly sorry. I hope that you have found someone to give you the love and support that you deserve. I hope that you don’t let this ruin you on humanity. Go out there and find yourself a surrogate mother. Trust me, we are out there and longing for someone to take care of and love. A mother doesn’t have to be biological; she just needs to accept you and love you for all that you are. You just need to ask to be loved. I have several kids that I love as my own. That’s the best part about love; it’s endless and the heart always has room for one more.