How do you tell if you feel romantic feelings

Its a question I’ve had for a good while now and i just don’t know how to tell

Any past relationships I’ve had just seems like i wanted to be friends and got confused. Sometimes my friends just come to my head a lot and im not sure if its a sign that im attracted to them. I think about being like physically close with someone with like kisses hugs and cuddles with the sense of like a romance fantasy sort of thing but when i think about my friends im not thinking like “I want to be their girlfriend/wife.” I get really anxious and freaked out when people like confess love or ask if i like them and i feel pressured to say yes. I never really had any crushes and i just assumed wanting to be friends with someone was a crush. There wasone girl who I thought was really interesting and i wanted to know her and I thought it was a crush.