a rough time between parents means rough life for their kids

My parents are basically at eachothers throats currently, My dad got an attorney and is trying to pay less to my mom while also taking my brothers all because my mom plans on moving 20 minutes away and my brothers will be going to a different but way better school. It's hard when you feel like you have to pick a favorite parent but rn my dads making it difficult for me to like him. I'm not included in this whole ordeal cause I'm 17 and graduating this year which is a year early, but still I'd rather not my brothers be taken to my dads full time. My middle brother is constantly reminded of every little mistake he makes by my dad and my dad uses physical activity as punishment then questions why he doesnt like it. my youngest brother is on the same route I went on, he's becoming a perfectionist like I am every bad grade he dare gets he freaks out because what will dad think? When i showed my dad my SAT scores which I was actually really pleased with I never got a good job from him only "i'd like you to beat my score so you might want to take it again". I'm sorry I ddint know you were the line for perfection. He's very self centered and thinks he knows everything about everything. When we have to move out of my moms house at the end of may I don't really want to stay with my dad for a month, I'd honestly rather stay with my friend because she has an extra room at her house and i'd be thriving much better there honestly. Idk divorced parents get messy and it makes their kids lives even messier.

not to mention along with this my middle brother is autistic and clearly depressed and my dad can't see his depression for some reason even though it's so obvious. My brother has literally told me he doesnt care if he gets in trouble anymore because he always will it's sad to hear that from your younger brother. He's given up on school my mom recently found out he hasn't been doing schoolwork at all and has been failing his classes due to lack of motivation. Every time I look at him now I see what mightve happened to me if I had stayed in the middleschool he's in. I worry for my brothers and my mom is so stressed out it's all very chaotic and hard to handle.

just wanted to get that off my chest