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I guess this just stems from me being jealous of girls but I don't like being a guy. I feel like I can't express myself or my emotions cause then people would call it "gay" or whatever which sucks. I see girls caring for their friends, talking about their problems, and sharing interests between each other but I feel like guy friendships are more cold and less friendly. Like don't get me wrong I love to just hang out with my guy friends and do stupid stuff and all that but I wish I could talk about my interests and not have to put up some nonchalant persona with them or with any dude. And girls have so much more variety when it comes to fashion while men's fashion feels so restricted. I don't understand how girls like men if that makes sense because I've never liked a man in my life so I don't know what is attractive about a man. And I guess that makes me feel ugly because If I don't find myself attractive then how will I know I'm attractive to others? There's so many girls who say they hate men and I get that there are a lot of dudes who are human garbage and are manipulators but it makes me wonder if girls actually hate ALL men. I wonder if girls even like men anymore??? I know this is a sensitive topic and I hope not to offend anyone or make generalizations or whatever but this is just a rant, and NO, I DO NOT HATE WOMAN.
I don't like being a guy
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Dio
As someone who’s been writing a blog about just how much it sucks to be a woman, you’ve opened my eyes to see a positive side of being a women which I didn’t think there was any before.
Maybe once I finish my blog abt how I envy men, I’ll get to give you the same effect :)
Minxxx
It's not about that male can't share there thoughts with othereone. The problem is that's how they have grown up.
Most lf male friendship is about having fun, and enjoying there time. But not a single male have ever talked directly about what they truly feels and why? Because "that's how they were teached" girls are more emotional and close with their friends. Because they share there emotional part as well. But males friendship. Never had anyone really talked about what is being emotional. Because some of myths that it make us look weak.
That's what I've knowledge about it. It's just my thoughts about whatever you said. Not fully. But simple part what I've seen.
Honestly yeah thats how it was for me growing up, I never really talked about my emotions or wtv cause i'd usually get made fun of or called sensitive. And now I find it really hard to express emotions and it feels really weird. I feel like my social growth has been stunted
by m4k0t0_1s_c00l; ; Report
While that can be the case, sometimes growing socially just takes time and experience. Took me awhile to evolve in that capacity tbh
If its any solace, there are guys out there that can talk about feelings maturely, but I relate in that it can be pretty rare. I speak from the perspective of most of my friends being girls most my life.
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ash !
and fashion.. yes that can be true but some fashion like emo and scene sort of defeat that; its the same mostly for all genders in those genres it just depends on what you want to wear
Yeah and thats why I like emo fashion and I have been getting into it this past year but I've never really expressed myself to that level before and its new to some of my friends. Some of them have already just thought it was weird and theres not a lot of people into those styles at my school. and the very few who are emo/scene are mostly girls which i sometimes wish more men were emo/scene too
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ash !
as for men being attractive; some people just like nonchalant or i suppose cold people. i dont know how but rhey do so good for them and some men are comfortable with rheir emotions and spme girls like that and to me its attractive too, its attractive being emotional and in touch with yourself
Greeby
I ain’t no genius but I you gotta find a group you can be vulnerable with. Like my group is super tight knit, we been together since middle school, through covid and all that. So we ain’t gotta do that while nonchalant thing. So I mean things like that with your friends come with time, and if it ain’t coming with time you gotta take initiative and do something about it.
Scratching on the other topics ( ain’t a pro at this btw) I remember when I was younger I kinda felt that way about fashion as a dude. But now that I’ve grown up, I’ve learned how to style myself as a man, like in a manly typa way. Again I ain’t a pro but fashion is a skill you gotta get good at, and once you master that you’re gonna feel at home in your body.
Hope this helped
yeah you're right, i should find people i can be vulnerable with. I have been friends with my friends for a long time now but, I feel like we are growing into different people so these problems are new to me.
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ash !
i understand you, as a girl, sometimes i want to be a guy. i have my own reasons for that and i understand where youre coming from with the whole ''cold nonchalant'' persona. i think youre around the wrong people though, i hope this doesnt come out as rude or offensive. masculinity is about being fragile and emotional, being safe and connected with your emotions, not disconnected from that as todays standards withhold. men should show more emotions and open up, everyone should. if you ever need someone to talk to im here