How I Would Parent

- They will become more creative with less toys. Donate old stuff together. 
- Watch TV, vacuum, workout, play music, even when they are sleeping
Routine
- Have a daily routine for them
- Use skylight calendar
- Make sure the routine includes: waking them up gently (classical or jazz music in the morning), potty, chores, activities that’ll get their brain tired, activities that’ll get their body tired, bath, and reading
Second language
- Make everything second language at home
Sign language
- Talk to them in baby sign Language
Take them out in nature every week
- Hiking, Fishing, horse, rock climbing, cave exploring, hot springs, kayak/boat, beach, surfing, ice skating, snow boarding, skiing, etc.
Gentle sleep train baby
- Floor bed instead of a crib so they can independently climb in their bed as soon as they’re old enough
- Make sure they used their energy throughout the day 
- Make sure they are as comfortable as possible with bath, clean room, full tummy, and routine
- Do let them take naps during the day in as many different circumstances as possible, so that they learn to sleep in any situation
Potty Train- Swimming
- Judo/jujitsu
Only do chores when the kids are awake, so that we can do it together
Once they learn to sit, always sit at the dining table while eating
- This will help when we need to eat at a restaurant
- Also make sure there’s no distraction while eating such as TV
- Take a picture of it and save it so they can consider it on Christmas or birthdays
- Or let them buy it themselves with their own money
Be open about Santa
- “Santa Claus comes from a real man named Saint Nicholas who lived a long time ago. He was very kind and liked giving gifts to people who needed help. Today, people remember him by pretending that Saint Nicholas or Santa Claus still brings presents.”
Reading
- Read to them every night 
- Library every Sunday
- Start teaching them how to read early on
- Teach them the pronunciation of the letters, not the name of the letters
- Gift them books & kindle
- After they learn how to read, move onto writing (including cursive)
Math
- Memorize multiplication until 9x9 (album: trap tables by coach toni)
- Abacus (addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division)
Financial literacy
- Never borrow money 
- Never lend money 
- Retirement savings account
- High yield Savings account 
- Allowance will be given as gifts on birthdays, Christmas, New Years, and Easter in Easter eggs
No portable electronic devices
- They may freely use non-portable devices such as TV, PC, PS5, Xbox, Wii, etc
- They will not be given portable devices such as iPad, iPhone, laptop, 3DS, Wii U, etc
- I want them to learn how to navigate the world without having a device in their hand. And I also want them to learn that it is okay to be bored
- 4th or 5th grade provide them with a laptop as a practice for having a phone 
Internet safety (middle school)
- Discussions about phone addiction, porn, fact checking, dangers of AI, body dysmorphia, how algorithm will give you one sided views (which is especially dangerous for political topics), what NOT to post on the internet (Real name, address, pictures with face, pictures that'll show location, nudes (even in private messages)), spam texts, scammers, online relationships, online predators, cyber bullying, etc
Curfew
- Come home before I go to bed
- Keep me updated on their whereabouts (who, where, when) through text
No sleepover
- Sleepovers only at our place until high school (I watch too much crime documentaries - gotta make sure my babies are alive and well at the end of every day)
Encourage them to stay curious 
- Take them out of school every Friday, to explore anything that they are interested in
- Have a whiteboard to write down anything they got curious about through the week so we can explore them on Fridays

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Discipline
- Let them decide what the consequences would be or how they should solve the problem. If they are too young to do so, give them options to choose from.
- Admission of being wrong and desire to do better is what I’m looking for. The word "sorry" isn't necessary
Drop the “but” in apologies 
- “Hey, I was wrong to yell at you. I won’t do it again” 
- Don't add “But you should’ve-“…that can be a separate conversation for later
Ask them consent 
- “Can I kiss you?” “Can I hug here?” “Can I play with you?”
Their "No" will be respected
- Don't wanna go hiking no more? Let's not go hiking then. Don't wanna hug your grandma? No need to hug your grandma. Don't wanna go to school? fine. Let's figure this out
Do not make unnecessary comment to them
- Don't say stuff like "ohhh look who's out of their room" "Are you really going to wear that?"
- I don't want them to grow up worrying about people’s perception of them 
- if nothing valuable comes out of me saying it, don't say it
Don’t ask them tiring questions 
- Asking "How was school" everyday isn't a good way to communicate when they reply with "good" every single time. They just finished work. They need rest. Give them tea, make some snacks for them, if they seem happy "Did something good happen today?" But if not, I don't gotta ask. 
No thought crimes
- All thoughts are allowed to be expressed, as long as they aren't being expressed as a weapon. For we can’t improve each other if we can’t freely and honestly express ourselves.
Give effort based compliments- Tell them “notice how-” “watch your step” "slow down" "focus" "pay attention"
Autonomy
- let them choose what books to read, what to wear, what hairstyle they want
- Give them choices to make instead of deciding everything for them
- Let them be as independent as possible with an accessible closet, bathroom, bed, etc.
Leave them alone when they are focused. Do not disrupt their focus by talking to them. 
Be flexible as you would be with a friend, If they try to negotiate, hear them out

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