Hot thoughts ~ 2; gender identity

why is figuring out gender identity so hard? For a while I thought I was nonbinary, which I'm sure I am, but they/them pronouns don't feel right. But sometimes I like being hyperfeminine and being girly but as before, she/her pronouns don't really feel right either. And I absolutely dislike he/him pronouns for myself. so I don't really know what I am. Because sometimes I feel like a girl and other times I don't. Maybe I'm a demigirl? Idk, does anyone have an idea or have tips for how to figure your identity out?