Bulletin by a friend

What my friend wrote (trying to keep her privacy)

There is an utterly crushing feeling about knowing that there is something about your nature that people find odd, and that no medicine or therapy will change that fact and you just have to live with that // (pretty sure this resonates with being autistic but it feels strange to say it since I'm not diagnosed)

What I replied

angel_wings..*

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I am diagnosed and yes. 100% that is the feeling - even if / when you're undiagnosed, this feeling has always come first, and it just doesn't ever end.

At least, you can find some comfort in knowing there are other people out there who get exactly how it feels. And thanks to that, you don't have to keep thinking that you're broken.

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butterflykyle

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I was diagnosed earlier this month. I need to make more neurodivergent friends because these friendships will be more fulfilling and natural for me to keep and nurture, I am trying to, but I also need to work on my internalised ableism since this is all so fresh.

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I feel you. 28 years old and I still upset myself sometimes by wanting to push past my limits that I know so well.

Good friends, neurodivergent or not, not only respect these but they can accept them as a part of who you are and love you for it (not 'despise it'). You work with them and they work with you - that's friendship.

At the end of the day you're just a normal person that functions a bit different in some ways - that's all.

That being said, most of my best friends are indeed a bit "spectrum-ey". What's the saying.. birds of the same feather... flock together or something like that. But it applies to everyone on the planet.

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