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I want to be someone's muse. I want to be cherished and appreciated. I want someone to love and respect me just as much as I do them. I'm tired of my needs and boundaries being pushed away or seen as selfish. Why can't I take time for myself? Why is it seen as pushing someone away when I simply do need them attached to my hip? Why can't we both feel mutually good knowing we love each other and not need to kiss or touch eachother every five seconds to prove it? Am I selfish for feeling that way?
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ｙｕｕｒａ （ゑヒぉ）
humans are inherently selfish creatures, it's woven into our biology to be that way. Just because we're hardwired to be that way, it doesn't mean we have to live selfish lives. You aren't harming anyone for feeling this way, I know where your coming from when you want time for yourself. The pinnacle of a relationship is finding the balance between yourself and your partner. If all your time is spent with your partner, then that is not a relationship, not a healthy one at least. If your lover refuses to respect the boundaries you set, please talk to them. Some people are unaware that they come off clingy or overaffectionate, if this is a repeated issue that you're aimlessly trying to fix over and over again, then it's best to leave it.
The manner in which you give love should always be mutual, even if it is expressed in different ways. You do not become one being with your significant other. You are still your own, unique person, a relationship does not define needs. It is not selfish for you to want to preserve your individuality in a relationship.
Thank you so much. That really helped me see it.
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I meant "do not need them" lol