Being a Christian incorrectly

3 weeks ago

first off, thank you for being open about this, as many people wont go ahead and be open about their struggles with their faith. I totally feel you on this one, and oftentimes its normal to feel this way since we're human, and this is simply the Holy Spirit convicting us with the purpose of getting us to get closer with God.

honestly, what has helped me when i go through this is by just setting up an environment of worship. from prayer walking (like talking to God like hes walking right beside you which may seem goofy but it really does help), listening to worship music so that it edifies my soul, and making it a priority to hear/read Gods word, as thats his primary way of speaking to us. Some days it might feel forced because when you get into the routine of something, it feels just like that, a routine. But God wants us to be in love with him, not simply just fall into the routine of prayer.

To fall in love with someone, you naturally have to have intimacy with them and be open, which i encourage you to go ahead and keep praying and being open and honest with God, but also thanking Him and paying attention to the way he moves in your life from day to day (this will help trust). And, its okay to ask God for things, even if its alot, God wants to hear our requests and prayers/petitions before Him (John 14:13-17, Matthew 21:22). When you ask God for the strength to go through things such as daily life, conflicts, work, etc, he'll equipt you with what you need to go through your daily trials, trust.

hope this helps :)

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3 weeks ago

Hi, I think your problem is that you're not listening to God. You talk to God and that's a good thing, but sometimes instead of talking, you need to sit down and listen to him, because God wants to talk to you. Sometimes God speaks one way, sometimes another. To talk to him, you should take your Bible and read it, because the Bible is one way of talking to God, since he is the Word. As for sinning, I'd like to tell you that everyone sins, and God knows it. You won't be able to stop sinning on your own, the only way to stop is to let yourself be guided by the Holy Spirit. Jesus really loves you, go into his presence and don't listen to others. Your faith is personal.

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22 days ago

Everyday when you wake up, you can make a decision to try and spend time with the Lord. It's a choice. I'm not trying to shame you, but empower you, because no matter how long you go without reading, praying, worshipping, you can always wake up the next day and try again. I'm sorry you haven't been getting the support you need from your family, but there are ways to find accountability partners and support groups who can help you turn things around. And always know that Christ has not left you or forsaken you, but is holding out His hand for you to walk beside Him again.

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24 days ago

Your works will reflect your faith, so instead of getting hung up on your works, try focusing on what has traditionally built-up your faith, and carve out a space in your life where you can be around that more often. For me it was spending more time around other Christians.

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1 month ago

𝓱𝓮𝔂, 𝓳𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓪 𝓻𝓮𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓭𝓮𝓻 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓫𝓲𝓫𝓵𝓮 𝓲𝓼𝓷'𝓽 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝔀𝓸𝓻𝓭 𝓸𝓯 𝓖𝓸𝓭- 𝓙𝓾𝓼𝓽 𝓫𝓮𝓬𝓪𝓾𝓼𝓮 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓭𝓸𝓷'𝓽 𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓭 𝓽𝓱𝓮 𝓫𝓲𝓫𝓵𝓮 𝓮𝓿𝓮𝓻𝔂𝓭𝓪𝔂 𝓭𝓸𝓮𝓼𝓷'𝓽 𝓶𝓮𝓪𝓷 𝔂𝓸𝓾'𝓻𝓮 𝓰𝓸𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓽𝓸 𝓱𝓮𝓵𝓵! 𝓨𝓸𝓾𝓻 𝓼𝓹𝓲𝓻𝓲𝓽𝓾𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓽𝔂 𝔀𝓲𝓵𝓵 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓵, 𝓘 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓼𝓮! <3

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1 month ago

I think sometimes we get stuck on this idea that we have to perform faith perfectly. Like, we start treating being a Christian like it’s a checklist: read Bible ✅ don’t curse ✅ pray without sounding weird ✅ be holy all the time ✅ and if you miss one, oops! You’re lukewarm and going to hell. But faith isn’t a performance. It’s a relationship. And just like any relationship, there are seasons. There are days when you're tired and distant and confused. That doesn’t mean you're fake. That means you're human.

You’re showing up here. That means something. That is something. You're clearly longing for closeness with God. That longing is already a kind of prayer.

As for praying when it feels fake, that’s okay too. Sometimes all I can say is, “Hey God. I don’t know what I’m doing. But I’m here.” He gets that. He’s not grading your eloquence. He’s not measuring your holiness in perfect verses or productivity. He just wants you. Even the scrolly, sleepy, slightly-sweary you. Idk.

don’t try to “fix” yourself into a better Christian. Just spend time with God like He’s your best friend. That might mean reading one verse and thinking about it while you brush your teeth. Or telling Him about your day like a voice memo. Or even scrolling Christian TikToks and letting one thing sink into your heart. It counts. It all counts.

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1 month ago

I've been through a similar situation and I believe I'm still going through it, so one piece of advice I give you is fasting. Fasting is a great way to connect with God. Fasting and prayer

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1 month ago

I completely understand how you feel.
Don’t let other people make you feel guilty because that will push you further away from your faith.
Let yourself come to God naturally and don’t force yourself to read his word every day. Try remembering that God is not judgy!! God loves you whether “lukewarm” or not and he’ll be there when you’re ready.

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