about the 'male loneliness epidemic'

hope i'll touch on this in different sights that others miss and make it more normal to talk about.

i've been bugged off for a while because of how this argument has been used mostly towards women, telling how many men die in wars, k!ll themselves, and etc. while also other women only look at it in the way that other men trying to shove it in to make their problems less important. i know its a shitty behavior and it must be held accountable but like as in the name itself, there is a very big statistics of men getting even lonelier.

the reason its getting higher is mostly being uneducated about ourselves or treated in a wrong way. for example, parents just giving an ipad to their kid and not caring about them, parents boosting the ego of their boy they raise because he is counter-argumenta boy and stricting their girls because she is a girl. the gender norms that doesnt fit with us are still being pushed on us or never even cared so it leads us to the internet for help to discover ourselves. 

nowadays, it causes boys to lean at red pill, black pill, looksmaxxing with enough geometrical calculations that none of them would use in their lessons just to feel like they're approachable, andrew tate, "alpha male and high value men podcasts", misogyny, p0rn, etc. and girls lean at "villainous femme" content, pro-@n@, "grwm" content with shit ton of makeup to make other girls self-conscious about themselves in such young age, misleading empowering and etc. 

all of these are the surface content that im giving example of. and guess what? the internet itself is making us lonely. any "male loneliness epidemic" counter-argument thats used towards any problem that women encounter is not worth to talk about. but i believe the real problem that men have this loneliness more is due to the existence of patriarchy and who carries it.

in a good way, we can see the gender norms becomes lesser and lesser so we can be genuinely ourselves since we have actually an easier life than the past with the rise of technology. but the problem is how people use the technology, the social media. we live in a timeline where every opinion can be heard and carried now, from the wisest to the most idiotic one.

since i talk about boys and men now, i'll talk about what boys and men see. there is many red-pill leeches that just sucks up many man or boys attention, making them feel heard while they intensify their need for control and power because they're men, how others have failed them and you are the only one you can rise yourself. shoving down the most self-deprecating but "motivational" talks, speeches, giving courses to make them feel more independent, more "alpha" or "sigma" to be higher than "betas", "omegas" or some shit.

while black-pill thats getting off of being told how ugly they are, how much of a "sub 5" they are and rating each other in psl's while nobody actually fucking cares. like nobody will care about your some specific bone structure and how it looks, how it attracts them. telling each other "looks are everything otherwise its all over" shows that they havent been actually outside or socialised. and yes, "pretty privilege" will exist but just because you arent handsome or hot, your life will be over.

now if we talk about incels thats blaming everything on women because they cant be with a woman is one of the biggest reasons that shows us what feels like to be in denial of losing the control men used to have in past. the reason women were marrying much more in past is because they either were forced to or they had to so they can feel more financial freedom due to workplaces are men-dominated and women wont even be allowed to work. from those days, we can notice we're reaching to the lighter days while there is still darkness in it. thats why incels exist. they feel outed and rejected, and the demonizaton of women is also causing even a worse, twisted version of hatred, misogyny that causes immense damage.

at the very end, the reason men is lonely is most of them arent aware of how to become themselves without being oppressed by other men. how to express the emotions that men hide to look "nonchalant", understanding that being authentic, being yourself is the healthiest way of see who we are, feeling free in what we like, how we like, whether its more broad or gentle, whether its more colorful or simple and etc.

and by the way, one of the big problems why its disliked is its being conveyed as "male loneliness" or "men suffer in silence". a lot of us are also lonely and suffering without any gender mattering but you cant hear it right?

its all because of that damn phone

if you have any questions to ask about it, i'll be waiting.