missing toxic people advice

The crazy thing about missing somebody who was toxic in your life is that is different that missing others. You know that the person you miss was bad for you and so most of the time (even if you don't know it) you don't miss them but the feeling of love that you were able to give them and the fact you didn't have anyone to give that personal love and affection for afterwards. And that is completely okay. You matter a lot more than you will ever think and thoughts like these bring you down but it is completely normal to have thoughts like these, in fact it is expected. When you were with your ex or your ex best friend, you had a unique feeling towards them that you had never felt before (either romantically or platonically) hence the attraction you had towards them when you met them or asked them out. Every experience you have with a person is different than you would have with another person and it's important to remember that no matter how bad the person was, it is always okay to appreciate the good moments and miss the good times you actually spent together. So when you lose someone through an argument or a break up, it is an obvious and expected reaction to cry about it or miss them and want to return to them. They left a hole that you can never fill with another person because of how amazingly different every person is . What you need to remember is that you can find someone better no matter what. You won't have the same experience or the same interests as you did with the last person but you will learn new things, experience new things and start a new path in your life. Getting over a relationship or friendship is one of the healthiest but trickiest things to do, but the best thing to do is to push through it instead of returning to the toxic person in your life that hurt you, reminisce on the good times and the funny stories that happened but always remember the reason for the end of it. You deserve love, affirmation, affection, and the kindest life but there will always be an obstacle in your way that will interfere and attempt to stop you and all you can do is battle through it, be strong, and remember that you matter and count just as much as any other person you have encountered in your past, present and future. Love you loads <3