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Romantic attraction is not something I’ve felt in ages, as a matter of fact I wonder if I’ve ever felt it at all, it’s hard to tell when I view my feelings as something so complex. It’s like a puzzle almost, a Rubicks cube perhaps or maybe something far more intricate and can only be acquired through a joke shop hidden in some alleyway, whatever it is doesn’t matter and is besides the point. It seems that I always find myself using stupid analogies to make my writing seem interesting to the reader but never do I ever get straight to the point and actually express what I’m trying to get across but I guess I could do that right now.Â
Romantic attraction. What does that even mean these days? Sometimes I wonder if people even love each other at all or if most people are only in relationships for the fun of it without ever desiring the need to settle down. I guess it’s easy to have such a mindset when you’re young but even if meaningless things such as a young relationship are temporary I would at least like it to have actually meant something to me in some way rather than just another person to move on from. I’d also like to critique how many of my peers seem to value romantic connection over platonic ones and in the sense that such can also be differentiated from regular friendships. Platonic companionship is how I see it is much more and I always seem to crave for it in places I could not find.
I want to care for someone and be cared for back and I could not stress this enough but I want to know that I’m actually wanted around and vice versa. I want someone who could caress my hair and do my makeup but I don’t want it to seem like the bond we have is of that like sisters and surely not lovers. I want someone, just one singular person who I can feel comfortable pouring my heart to, I want to shower them with gifts and they could do the same without me feeling like they’re only doing it for the sake of being nice. Why must showing affection towards someone be seen as something so weird and automatically create the impression that there’s “something going on” between two people? Why must it be viewed in such a way? Where’s the compassion, the humanity, why must I live in such a world where such thing is looked down upon by those who do not understand it?Â
I’m perplexed, not only because I do not understand myself but also due to my lack of understanding of others who want nothing more than another person to screw with for as long as the moment allows it to. Surely I’m not overreacting, perhaps slumber is calling my name this second so to my sleep chamber I return before I ponder on such thoughts again. Good night.
-Statiscit [30/3/2025 01:09AM]
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Arlo
Platonic love really is special, I wish people understood that more
And emotional intimacy and love in general
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Yeah :(
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spicyshark
Me and my wife got married a few months before our 22 birthday and we've been married for 6 years now. I think we have these fantasy's about what relationships are supposed to look like from movies and TV that dont match the real world. Those magical moments you see in media are very few and far between in the real world. Most of the time its more like just two people chilling hanging out together more than anything else.
Im glad i met my wife because my life is better with her in it. There are times where things are rough and there are times where things are great but no matter what we have each other.
With that said relationships are definetly not for everyone and i know some people who are genuinely more happy alone than they ever where in a relationship. I think everyone is looking for something different in life and it all depends on what it is that you are looking for.
Media has definitely played a big role in changing how people view relationships, not just in films but also music and books. Thus, this creates the whole hopeless romantic complex we see so much online these days although its origins predates from decades ago, it’s mostly evident in poems or forms of classical literature. Then there’s yearning or whatever you want to call it.
It is true that not everyone actually desires to be in a relationship, part of it is really just the feeling of missing out and wanting to fit in with the rest of the world but there’s something more there that not enough people spend time to think about, what they really want as you said. In the end sometimes it just leads to people being in unhappy relationships with miserable families and the victims will be the children, sometimes maybe everyone even. Then the cycle repeats so unless you decide to look for change then things just go on forever
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Lailia's Museum
I agree. I really hate that the only relationships that are understood and talked about the most are romantic relationships. Of course people value family probably almost as much as romantic relationships, but platonic relationships and everything in between deserves as care and attention as romantic relationships. I've never been in a romantic relationship, but my friend has friends who abandon him as soon as they get a partner which is terrible! I believe if people could, not lower the importance of romantic relationship, but understand that's not the only or most important relationship in someone's life then things like that wouldn't happen.
I think, at least western society, has an obsession with individualism and doing whats best for yourself and your family which is why romantic and familial relationships are the most talked about and valued, but friends are equally important! It's incredibly important to have a system of people you know you can rely on and people you enjoy being around to support you and for you to learn to become a better person by helping them.
Also within our society, heteronormativity is really holding us back from becoming closer to those around us because doing intimate things with friends, like showering together or cuddling in bed, would just lead to assumptions of being romantically involved when it doesn't have to be like that at all. Platonic and romantic are not the only relationships you can have with people you are close with. We are all complex human beings and almost nothing in the world is completely black and white. Relationships are probably the most complicated things about humans so its ridiculous to boil down someone's relationship with another as either romantic or platonic.
I hope I'm not just rambling on, this has been on my mind a lot too.
No I definitely get ur point. It really is sad to see people abandon their friends for a lover when you can really just have both at once as long as ur able to manage the time you spend with both. Maybe it’s more complicated than it sounds but u can make it work.
On the topic regarding this, I remember hearing on the radio a talk regarding platonic partners, people who are not romantically involved but have a family which works like one. They talked about fostering kids, managing the house, etc and although the structure is by no means the same as a traditional family I believe that as long as it works like one and everyone is happy then certainly there’s nothing wrong with that.
People are very quick to label things which is ironic because I am technically using labels with the words romantic and platonic but I wish people could just be people, care for each other, act decent, that’s really all there is to most of my paragraph although I did write it amidst dealing with my own frustrations and loneliness so reading back there is definitely some things I wish I didn’t write but hey at least I’m honest about it
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No its good that your honest and I completely agree with everything you said in your original post. I also struggle with loneliness. I've been limited to only whats on my computer and in my school in my experience of life, so hearing that there are platonic family and nontraditional households out there and telling their story is a big comfort
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