My (ex)girlfriend wanted to do a school shooting (TW: mention of school shooting (obviously), gore, etc)

Okay so I would first like to preface this with that I am not longer dating her and she luckily did not go through with the plans. I will be calling her by her real name Ella throughout this story. This is because 1, f*ck her privacy and 2, it’s literally such a common name it doesn’t matter much if at all.

To start from the beginning, we started dating in November of 2024 and she shared her ideas and part of her plans over text around late January or early February, my apologies for not having the time specifics for I deleted all the messages (my mistake). But earlier than that she already showed what I see as major red flags. For one and the main one, she watched gore and a lot of it. Gore can be okay in moderation and can be educational, but most of the time people who watch it do not watch for those reasons. In her case and many others, Ella would use the excuse that she just “wanted to see the reaction that bodies (in the film) and herself go through” I personally want to see her and anyone else who uses this excuse react TO A F*CKING SHOWER. She also self harmed and tried to overdoes multiple times and would say that she does this to herself as an “experiment” to see how her body reacts. 

But back to the topic at hand, she shared her plans with me over text and said that she “just wanted to kill mass amounts of people” which is a completely invalid argument to be doing this, though be fair there is no argument that could possibly validate for doing this. She also shared with me that she would be doing this with a friend (who I’ve now found out is another one of my “friends”, we will call him Jace), and that they would take their own lives afterward as inspired by the columbine shooting. They had these plans saved on their messages and notes app. Ella would not share the full plans with me and would as well tell many other people, practically my entire friend group. But then something strange would happen and her friend (Jace) would give her one of his antidepressants for her to take (I’m not sure what conversation they had that led up to this but that doesn’t matter). She would take it and supposedly when she took it it made her realize she didn’t want to go through with the plans. I would also like to mention that this friend was the one who started the plans and brought Ella into it. And so Ella told Jace she didn’t want to go through (thank god). Although I don’t fully believe that a single pill made her not want to shoot up the school, I have nothing else to work with. 

Despite no longer wanting to do it, she still kept the plans in her notes app. I know this because she got caught by her family. The last time I spoke to her would be Valentine’s Day at 8:58 am, this would be the day her phone got search and was sent to the mental hospital. That day I would be texting her innocently and would be left on delivered, this was until I texted “Are you okay?”. To this her mom would text back that she was with family at the moment and she would ask for my parents number (even though she had my dad’s number). I did not give their numbers because I was nervous and didn’t know what she wanted to do with them. My parents would then find out about this 2 days later. They found out because they said that if I told them the worst thing on my phone then that they wouldn’t search through it, so I told them. My father would text her mother about the situation and the mom would reply that I was no longer allowed to be in contact with her because I am transgender (her mom is somehow okay with her daughter being gay but not with me being trans 🤨). I did not buy this as the full story because Ella lost contact with everyone. All of my friends reported that they had not been able to contact her whatsoever, and so my friend group and I naturally launched our own investigation on her disappearance. Long story short, we found out she was in a mental institution. This would also be the time I came out and said that she has these plans and learned that practically every one of my friends knew too (kept that a secret for nothing). Things went quiet for sometime with little updates on the situation until another one of Ella’s friends would pass me a note from Ella. The note would say that she was now being homeschooled and would be moving to New York (the state not the city) in May and that she would understand if I chose to broke up with her (I eventually did). Things would once again go quiet with a few small updates. And this is all I have to say for this story. I would like to end this saying that I fully understand that mental health is a big factor in this but I would also like to say that it is not an entire excuse for her behavior. I have my own violent thoughts and tendencies too, but the difference is is that I’m making an effort to be better and am not planning on things like that. I’ve watched gore before and personally do not see the appeal, but I understand how people may be gore addicts and don’t want to be. But once again, you have to make an effort to change your behavior instead of saying and believing that you’re stuck in that situation. I sincerely hope her mental health gets better, but I still thought I should share this situation. 

I’m sorry for any grammatical errors in this. 

SpaceHey people if you’re reading this, pls don’t take it down there are literal accounts who say they love gore, deal with them first.