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i’m so tired of having all this love to give, but nowhere to send it </3 honestly, i’m way too mentally drained (or maybe just lazy, i wouldn't know the difference) to put in the effort to find someone to date close by.
anyone have tips? help a lonely girl out pls 
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Wren~
The best advice that I've heard is to make friends with guys. You may end up liking one of them romantically or you may not, but the goal is to expand your social circle overall to open more opportunities for yourself. For example, your guy friend that you're not interested in romantically, could potentially have another friend that you would be into & he could introduce you.
Yush ☆
Just become the boyfriend atp
Real talk tho i think its gotten harder in this kind of era (despite what youd think with ease of access now with dating apps). Older generations have like almost fairy tale stories about organically meeting people and stuff and it’s not to say it doesn’t happen now anymore, its just less likely to maybe. (Unless u dont care and just go for dating apps thats fine too lol)
“Third” spaces are kinda dead now but it still might be different where u live so try and meet some people through events or local communities… maybe for a hobby you have. But dont get too lost in finding just any boyfriend, the main thing should be if u two actually have a solid base (trust and loyalty, respect, encourages your ambitions, affection) and not just bc you need a random guy. I know thats probably obvious to you already but i just thought to add that
DAUGHTEROFTHESTARS
I feel you. Unfortunately, i can't help but be lonely with you. You just get used to it, like i do. might not be the case tho, im an ugly girl and you're probably pretty. In that case, it'll get easier while you grow up. I didn't experience it, but i observed it.
isa ✮
my boyfriend and i have been dating since 2023 so these are the things that helped me the most when we were in talking stage!! be yourself, i know it sounds cringy af but trust me, its better to be with someone that has a personality that matches yours than to be with someone who has a personality that makes you feel uncomfortable, dont rush things, let things flow and everything will be alright. i dont know if this saying has a direct translation in english but in spanish is "es mejor estar solo que mal acompañado" its better to be single rather to be in a relationship with someone who isn't good for you. im sure that you are a lovely person and you will find someone special one day, good luck <3
Lovely
Met my boyfriend when I was 10, I’m 18 now and we’ve been together for 4 years. We come from difficult backgrounds so it was a lot of work to grow up together and heal together. I think with love you have to show that you’re flexible, that you can grow and change as a person. Never change for a person but when you find someone who makes you better you’ll find yourself wanting to flow to the same rhythm that they do
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Love isn’t easy, it’s easy to fall into a routine mindset in relationships but you have to consistently be in the moment. Don’t be afraid of letting yourself feel things and ride emotions out.
As for finding a boyfriend that can’t be your end goal for relationships. If you want something real and close you need friendship. You need to feel connected with this person, and have to realize that friendship is so much different from romantic relationships. But when you meet someone like that, by putting yourself into comfortable and like minded spaces you’ll find someone that understands you.
ujjaini
honestly you might just not be compatible with the people around you. that's why some people find their significant others outside of their usual scene. go out with your friends, try new things, go to different places by yourself or with others! i'm sure there will be someone out there for you.
Maelstrom
If you find someone interesting, try to learn about them, be nice to them, try to talk to them. The best guys aren't necessarily the ones to make first moves, trust me. Above all else, communicate your intentions and desires to the right people.
Start as friends, if possible.
Giselle!
idk but you obvi dont either so
☢GrindGore420☢
"jarvis im low on kudos post that im single and make sure to include all the cute emoticons and pictures."
What an odd, rude thing to say.
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Kat
the movies make it look so easy 3
bella
omg same
لوسيان
a relationship wont solve all of your problems, work on yourself first :) you can start by going outside more and taking time to yourself where all you do is sort your thoughts and forget about your phone and other distractions. stop doing things that harm your mind and body like staying up late, eating poorly, or doing drugs and then every good choice you make will compound and eventually, others will recognize this good in you and be drawn to you.
truly take a deep look at your surroundings and consider what you did to get yourself where you are(if you blame it on other ppl then consider the way you react to this), you’ll realize most things around you could be changed after time and effort. start small: take vitamins, sleep 5 min more every day(until you get at least 7.5h of course) and have 5 min less screen time a day until it’s down to 2 hr or something manageable. be good(just) to everyone even if they have wronged you-of course don’t put up with that which you don’t deserve but don’t hold people’s mistakes against them and learn to forgive. once you start making small changes, after a while; you’ll notice a big effect in how you feel, how people feel about you, etc. just be true to yourself about what you need.
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thegh0stofyu
Honestly, just be yourself and put love out there, someone will find the love you’re putting out and match it. Well that’s how i found love! Get to know lots of people and someone will match your energy and vibes <333
Time_Keeper
I see a lot of people got the mental/philosophical stuff out of the way.
Realistically, you need to put yourself out there. Be social. Online. IRL. Whatever. How is a potential partner going to even know you exist if you aren't around to be seen.
It's a numbers game. The more people you know the better your chances of finding someone who fancies you.
Make sure people know about your hobbies and interests. That will help weed people out so you can find people you vibe with easier.
Good luck out there :)
mrnqvsk
I have 16 yrs but i feel like no guys love me they are always interested by my friends or my sister .So I asked a lot of questions abt myself if i am too shy?not beatiful enough ? not interesting ? What my friends have more than me ? I feel like i will never have a relationship with someone
:3
real I need a partner sb
unrelated but is ur pfp from the anime watamote :0
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Accurator
Just seeking out the very concept of a relationship is probably the wrong approach. Unless you've already met someone you like, whose company you enjoy, and whom you could see yourself never getting tired of, you're setting yourself up for failure. Forcing this particular issue is never going to get you where you want to be; or with who.
That doesn't mean to say you shouldn't do anything at all. Meet people, get to know them, maybe you'll come across someone who surprises you. Doesn't need to be in realspace either. A couple I know met on gaming forums back in the '90s, now they're married with two kids.
May that kind of love find me
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JustGabriel
for REAL. I don’t know how people js do it so easily, I see some of my classmates and like they’re dating a different person every two months, HOW?? Sighh
It depends on luck I guess. Right people, right time :( and connections of course!! I'm trying with this guy rn but I don't know if it's going anywhere yet (hopefully soon!!)
It's easier if you have many friends and if they can hit you up with new people.
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Cassette
Honestly? As a lesbian I'd have no idea but as a person that hangs around guys it's having them as friends and treating them like normal people first. If you can give them respect and they respect you back, that's great! You like eachother romantically? Even better!
But from my experience with romance, educate yourself in it and what limerence is. Limerence is the love of attention, but look more into it because it's a basic definition. Knowing shit about this and being able to stop yourself from these temptations is great because while you may not get as many partners, you'll get actual care and respect, and the love you want to dish out.
But because you're mentally drained, idk if it'd be worth it for you to look for a boyfriend, maybe something queerplatonic (basically closer than friendship but it's not dating) but i don't know about dating. You might hurt yourself that way.
But I'm just a loser on the internet, what would I know? Good luck on your quest of finding romance!
kiki
If you want a boyfriend, just be yourself. I know a lot of ppl say it but it's true! Don’t try too hard to impress anyone just be chill and talk to people more. Don’t be scared to make the first move either; sometimes it actually works. Also, take care of yourself, feel good, look good that confidence shows. And if a guy’s not feeling you, that’s cool too. It just means he’s not your person, so don’t stress it.
for realsies, sometimes you gotta let yourself be a little silly and hope they rw it
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