byf or dni or whatever

before you frq me or interact, please read and acknowledge the following (not forcing because it's a lot. but it's highly recommended)

• i am an adult. i am not gonna tell minors not to interact, but please know that i will talk about and make jokes rather intended for a mature audience. i won't straight up be explicit or weird, but i will make crude jokes (mostly the 5th grader haha pp funny or kys/kms jokes) and say slurs i, of course, can reclaim. and please know i'm just over 18.
  
• what will likely land me on a few dni lists is that i'm a fudanshi and himedanshi, as well as that i use contradicting labels. i am amab, yet do consider myself transmasc, as well as gay and lesbian at the same time. not bisexual. does it make sense to me? not really! but these labels resonate with me. please understand.
• english is my second language, although it shouldn't be an issue. i'm entirely fluid. if you prefer, my first language is german. i learn french, although my passive knowledge is better than my active knowledge. meaning, i can understand you, but i will likely reply in english.
• my tone can vary greatly based on the situation. i can be rather blunt or harsh around people i don't know, and i apologize for that. i do not mean any harm, ever. i often don't use tone tags and would prefer if you don't use them around me either, unless your tone is really really ambiguous. i also tend to make fun of others, but it's always in a lighthearted manner. feel free to tell me to stop if i make you uncomfortable.
• i am taken by my lovely queerplatonic wife alex. jokingly flirting is okay if appropriate, genuinely flirting or being inappropriate isn't.
• i post a lot about my interests. i have ADHD and autism, and thus tend to have intense and sometimes rapidly changing interests. please ask me about them. :3
• please do not ghost me cold-turkey if we interacted a lot beforehand. i understand that i am not perfect, and if you would like to tell me about something i did wrong, feel absolutely free to. it's okay to block me afterwards, too, but please just let me know so i can improve on my mistakes. although, if i seem to be in an unstable mindset based on my bulletin posts, please wait until i'm better. it'd likely just send me deeper into a spiral.
• as implied above, i'll probably vent in my bulletins. however, i will always tag the appropriate subjects.
• i have histrionic personality disorder and often tend to have an unhealthy craving for attention, especially in an episode. i will try my best not to guilt-trip others into interaction, but i can't make promises, and i apologize for that. please understand that.
• i may post about nicotine, ritalin and alcohol use. i am of drinking and smoking age in my country, and i have a prescription for ritalin. i post about caffeine as well, although i don't think that really needs a warning. here's one, anyway. if you need it.

• this list is subject to change at any time and without notice. it's recommended to check in every now and then.