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Basically, ive been noticing some things that r kinda annoying me about my bsf. first, she just makes everything a competition like for ex: me: "omg im so tired" her: "YOURE tired? i got NO sleep last night" .... like ok? i was trying to tell u... another thing is she always wants me to try and compliment her ex: HER: "omg nobody likes me and im so ugly" and i always try and support her and be like "no ur so pretty and so many people love u" and shes just like "OMG who likes me? like as a crush" and the thing is people like her way more than me so its just kinda annoying and whenever i tell people like her shes just like "how do you know? name 3 things they do" and stuff like that and thats fine but the thing is whenever i ask who she thinks likes me shes like "ummmm... idk" and its kinda like ://// another thing she does is kinda copy me..... so basically ive liked this boy for a while and she was always like "girl hes so ugly" but like 1 week ago she told me she liked him..... and she always is doing stuff like writing his name on her leg, or commenting on tiktok videos (he doesnt have tiktok) with like, ok this is hard to explain but the videos where it says a boys name and a number next to it and write the number in the comments, ANYWAYS shes always commenting on those videos his number (keep in mind this is MY crush) and the wrost part is she sits next to him in class so shes always talking to him and when we do partner work shes chose him over me...... like ðŸ˜.. and the other thing is she is always talking to him and tbh im jealous bc i think he likes her and everyone likes her and nobody likes me 😠and another thing is so basically for fun i call my friend clarisse (from pjo) and she calls me annabeth (also from pjo) but recently shes been like changing her snapchat bitmoji to look like annabeth (keep in mind her features and completely different from annabeths (she has dark brown hair and brown eyes like clarisse and i have blonde hair and blue eyes like annabeth)) and im just like.... isnt that my thing? and everything is crazy right now and the worst part is she will find any chance to roast me.. like call me fat and ugly and another thing is she will say these things only for male attention (we sit right infront of popular boys) like she never roasts me on call when were by ourselves but she will do it at school when were infront of boys another thing is she says she is a better pjo fan than me (she only likes pjo bc of walker scobell) and she doesnt even read the books! and its just like its not a competition and shes always bragging abt her tiktok account and how many followers and likes she has and one time i was excited and telling her about how my spacehey account had 123 views (she doesnt know what spacehey is) and she was like "thats a lot for you?" with a disgusted look on her face and i was just like "..." and there is other stuff she does thats so annoying please tell me if she is a fake friend (she never used to be like this)
is my friend of 2 years fake?
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aww :// she doesn't seem like a very nice person !!!
when dealing with people like this girl, you need to be a little stronger and stand up for yourself ! i've had a few friendships like these before, and the main problem is she thinks you're easy to push around ! the fact that she's trying to put you down in front of other people shows that ! calling you fat and ugly and embarrassing you in front of other people ? absolutely not !! that isn't what a nice person does.
if she's trying to compete with you over everything she clearly isn't showing respect and should be put in her place. she seems like a shallow person who wants to be popular and wants to be liked by others so bad, that she'll desert her good honest friends for that validation. that isn't okay, and you need to make it clear that she can't do those things to you !! you aren't her device to use for popularity and i think it's getting to her head. she seems like a terrible social climber who needs to learn that being popular isn't about wanting to be popular, it's about her mindset.
her way of thinking seems to be 'i need to do this and this and this to be popular' and not 'i need to have good and trusting friends, build up my confidence, and believe i am a person worthy of being liked'.
not 'i need to be liked', rather 'i'm likeable'.
these are quite clear signs of a superiority complex honesty ! and that really isn't good for her. the way she's acting is wrong and you need to stand your ground when she tries to humiliate you to bring up her image in public. a simple 'ok...' to any condescending, competitive remark would suffice, showing that you aren't the kind of person she can walk over. by all means go further if you want.
people who don't read the situation correctly would say something like 'oh she's jealous of you', which isn't always correct. i mean, she definitely could be, for sure. but there are equal chances of it just being 'i'm going to use her as my method to be popular by putting her down so i can feel better about myself' = she just wants to be better than everyone else. in the jealousy case it would be 'i want to look/seem (to other people) better than her'. that's simply all it boils down to. this mindset isn't great and it takes a long time to change, believe me. i've been her once.
analyse her behaviour yourself. since you said 'she never used to be like this' did she always like you ? or has it always been fake, just to use you ? think about it. but not too much !! there's no need to worry so much about it. it's normal to encounter people like this all the time. when i have a friend like this, i just keep my distance. 'i don't want to get to close with that person, but they're in the same friend group so i can't avoid it' kind of thing.
anyways, good luck !!!! i hope you solve your issue, feel free to chat with me for anything, let's be friends !!! always happy to help
Thank you so much and I’ll try to stand my ground more <33
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