Saw a shitty take on my feed today (LONG RANT)

(CW: MENTIONS OF PEDOPHILIA, NECROPHILIA, SEXUAL ASSAULT, SHOOTINGS, PSYCH WARDS AND MENTAL ILLNESS. IF YOU ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH ANY OF THOSE TOPICS, PLEASE CLICK OFF NOW)

(moved to "News and Politics" due to controversial opinions that might spark debate)

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Idc if this is a "nothing burger" of an issue, I'm going to rant about it because I want to. 

Literally saw this post on the "recent blogs" page saying that the "let's not kill all pedophiles" guy (who I will call OP) was "trying to excuse necrophilia and pedophilia by labeling it as a mental illness" or whatever tf they said (had to unblock them just so I could read their shitty take and my monitor broke and I'm using a boombox to make this post, can't read shit cause it's blurry asf)

The thing is, I actually read the original post this was talking about, and that was NOT what OP was saying at all.

They were calling out the very obvious issue with people with paraphilias and paraphilic disorders being stigmatised and being denied help just because what they were going through was "disgusting" or "taboo", and then people being shocked when the paraphiliac in question ends up acting out due to these untreated mental health issues getting worse due to the lack of help thy were receiving, and as someone who went through similar stigma due to my BPD and later on developing fantasies about being assaulted due to the poor treatment i received causing me to quit recovery all together (ultimately making my mental health worse), I say that OP was absolutely in the right to make that post, and the people who are complaining about that post are the exact reason why this is such an issue.

Unfortunately, stigma surrounding a lot of mental health issues that are considered "bad", "disgusting", evil" etc. can lead to the person not being able to receive help (or the proper kind of help they need, which was my case), and untreated or poorly treated mental health issues can lead to some very negative consequences, such as someone acting upon urges they cannot control and hurting either themselves or other people. It's why things like the Columbine shooting happened; the shooter had untreated mental health issues and people ignored the very obvious warning signs of that mental decline untill that shooting happened.

People really wanna act like "mental health matters" until the person in question doesn't just have tiktokified depression or anxiety, and they don't want to treat those mental health issues that are "bad" until it gets to a point beyond recovery and something horrific happens because of that. It's like they're asking for mentally ill people to get worse and do fucked up shit at that point, which is a stoop so low that it could make even the least empathetic feel disgusted.

And the person that motivated me to make this post knows this, OP said it themselves, but you wanna know what they had to say in response to the stigma and it consequences? 

      "So Kanye being an antisemite, racist, homophobe, sexist is okay right then? because it effects me in a way i dont like, but because I may not like it thats creating more stigma around people with BPD right? do you understand the fucking slippery slope this goes down? Of course you dont because youre too busy pandering to weird online fucks for spacehey kudos."

I don't even know how to fucking respond to that..

First off, you're assuming that when we call out the very obvious stigma that comes with being mentally ill that we're excusing the actions that are done due to the illness getting worse, which as I stated earlier, WAS NOT THE INTENT OF THAT POST YOU FUCKING BRAIN DEAD DINGBAT. 

OP said themselves that just because someone has a mental illness doesn't mean that harming others is okay, and they should be hold accountable as needed. There is no further need to clarify on that, there are no exceptions. 

That it is literally the point of getting help in this case; to prevent a mentally ill person from harming someone else, and to possibly treat the illness that is causing these unwanted urges to pop up. 

The whole "mental illness is an excuse" bullshit is a stigma that has been pushed onto us for YEARS now, and it completely ignores how neurotypicals are just as capable (if not more than capable) of abuse as a mentally ill person.

But it especially ignores how people who develop "bad" disorders are often victims of abuse themselves, often at a young age, and get this: NOT ALL TRAUMA RESPONSES ARE THE SAME.

But no, apparently only mentally ill people are capable of any abuse and neurotypicals are these sweet little angels who can't do anything wrong! am I right guys???? /sarc

Second off, I'm gonna say what nobody else is willing to say: I'm pretty sure the whole "kanye west is a nazi" thing is like 99% ragebait, so you're basically comparing mentally ill people's struggles to ragebait that you fell for on twitter. Lmao and i thought I was bad at social cues.

Third off, you're assuming that any sort of serious discussions about mental health online are purely for clout, which has the the worst thing that's come out of your fucking mouth. 

Nobody talks about what they've gone through purely for clout, and it's incredibly insensitive for you to fucking say that. I don't get a lot of notes on tumblr anytime I talk about my mental health issues, and I don't care for that, because while it is nice, it's not for the notes, it's because I need a fucking outlet and don't have other options.

In OP's case, they wanted to speak about a real issue that has been hurting people for a long time and one that nobody seems to give a damn about fixing. Those people being assholes like you. 

I say that because the whole post, you're nonstop talking about "oh, just get help instead of talking about it on spacehey!" AS IF THAT'S NOT WHAT OP WAS TALKING ABOUT IN THAT FUCKING POST. 

They would've gotten help HAD THE STIGMA NOT BEEN THERE REGARDING THEIR ISSUES. But apparently gen alpha aren't the only generation who don't know how to fucking read, YOU EVEN MENTIONED WHAT THEY SAID ABOUT THAT TOO, ARE YOU FUCKING DUMB???

That's exactly like whenever I told my therapists about any of my issues, they always said "JuSt UsE cOpInG MeChAnIsMs!!!", like that shit does NOT help at all, especially since I TRIED and it didn't fucking work.

Also, did we forget how fucking EXPENSIVE therapy is and how not everyone can get insurance, or how for some of us you literally have to drive HOURS just to get to therapy? like god damn, how out of touch can you be you fucking weirdo??

And another thing: the fact that you bring up how OP mentioned how they were a paraphiliac themselves and use that as "proof" that they're trying to "normalize" it kinda amuses me.

OP mentioned having necrophilia as a way to provide further context and to share what it's like having a paraphilia firsthand. The fact that you automatically assumed that just because they have a paraphilia themselves means it makes them think that it's okay to hurt people not only sounds ableist as fuck but also sounds incredibly fucking stupid when you say it out loud.

That would be like assuming that just because I have BPD means I think it's okay to cut people out of my life at random with no warning. I know it's wrong, it's why I tried to get help in the first place; so that I could learn to stop and actually try to build healthy relationships with people. I know I'm hurting the people around me whenever I do it, and I often find myself feeling guilty afterwards. I'm sure OP feels the same way anytime their necrophilia causes harm to other people, and that's why they brought up how important getting help was in the FIRST PLACE.

But of course, you don't care about that, because you're more worried about only helping the "pretty" mental illnesses and not actually allowing people to get the help they need when they need it. If anyone here should be getting off of spacehey, it's you. 

Go back to fucking tiktok or something you virtue signaling asshole.

PS, the absolute gall you have to link resources that don't have any correlation with what OP was talking about on your blog post to try and "not sound like a hypocrite" yet getting all pissy at OP for calling out how awful our mental health system is makes you look more like a goddamn hypocrite than you already are. People like you are the reason OP made that post in the first place. Seriously, my therapists could virtue signal better than that.

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Sorry about the long rant, but I am so fucking sick of tiktok bitches being all like "mEnTaL hEaLtH mAtTeRs!!!" until it's not the watered down and heavily romanticized version of depression or anxiety and it's an actual mental illness that affects other people if left untreated. I swear everyone who talks about mental health on that app is a god damn hypocrite and I'm not even gonna sugar coat it. 

Shit like that was the reason I gave up on recovery entirely; The minute people figured out I didn't just have suicidal thoughts, people refused to help me. Therapists tried to gaslight me into going back to outpatient (Spoiler alert: it only made me feel worse), I was told that every little thing that happened to me was my fault, and when I had to be admitted to the fucking psych ward I was stippe of my humanity. I also do not have the money to pay for insurance, so what's even the point if I'm just wasting my money on a bi-weekly therapy session I'll forget about anyways?

Unless you are actually willing to listen to all mental health experiences and get everyone the help they need, do not pull this "mental health matters" bullshit, especially if you're a therapist or someone who's well educated about mental health. (like the person who made the post that motivated me to make this post claims to be, which I doubt heavily considering they don't actually know how paraphilic disorders (or any sort of intrusive thoughts for that matter) even work)

I just know damn well that asshole's gonna make a post about me, to that I say: Don't even bother, you're just gonna start fights over something you should've done research on beforehand, and none of us are in the mood to fight with literal strangers online over someone being a genuine dumbass.

How about instead of trying to defend literal ableism, maybe actually do something more meaningful with your life, perhaps? Like idk, get a hobby or something?

(actually that reminds me, I need to work on sewing patches on my jacket, been putting it off for a while)

Anyway, I won't be posting pics for a while because my camera is having issues with connecting to my computer, and my phone is ass with the camera quality. Hopefully I should get to posting soon! (I'm currently working on a post talking about why I hate tiktok)

See ya nerds >:p