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Hi everyone :3
I´m here with another entry asking you guys for advice, because what´s the internet without the fun and thrill of asking strangers for life advice?/jk I´ll appreciate your advice so much.
So, I have this crush on a guy and we have become friends, the thing is, by the moment, he sees me as just a friend and I obviously don´t want that. The other thing is that this guy is dense af, so hints don´t work for him, and the secret third other thing is that he is that type of guy who is "scared of women" (not in weird way, he is just shy in that area). So, the big question here is; how do I make his perception about me change being bold enough for him to notice that I like him bot subtle enough to not come off as desesperate and scare him off?
Every advice is welcome, tysm
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Izivad
Well, sometimes you just have to shoot your shot. I think you should try hanging out with him one-on-one more often. Before I started dating my ex, we used to spend a lot of time together until we got comfortable enough to start making our attempts at love.
It’s funny because I think I was the shy and clueless one when it came to love, but even so, I was the one who asked her to be my girlfriend. That said, she pretty much laid out the whole path by being a bit bold in texts and touching my arm, holding my hand, things like that.
In the end, it didn’t work out because we wanted different things. I wanted to enjoy the relationship in the moment, while she was looking for something long-term (marriage and all that stuff). I was too young to be thinking about that kind of commitment, and it put a lot of pressure on me, especially since she started bringing it up really early in the relationship.
Another problem, especially when it came to that pressure, was that I was too shy and scared to voice my opinion and risk letting her down, which was stupid of me, of course. If necessary, you need to try to bring out his true opinions. People lie a lot because of fear.
Anyway, in the end, you should just be transparent with him. Not by directly confessing right away, but by starting subtly. Over time, as you both get comfortable talking about deeper things, you can take the bigger step :) (sorry for the big response lol)