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It's been about a week since I created my profile on spacehey and I have to say the site has been amazing. I have been slowly populating my friends list and tweaking the css code on my profile to recapture the feel of my original myspace profile.
I have gotten the opportunity to interact with some people who I would never have gotten a chance to if I had not come across this site. Everyone has been really friendly and seem to all be here just to make friends and discover new things.
As I was switching between laptops to keep my script writing on the path of progression I realized something; I don't know anyone on this site. Everyone on my friends list was a perfect stranger before I discovered them or they discovered me. I did my due diligence and searched around for users that I might know. I looked for close friends based off of their old usernames and just their actual name. So far I haven't come across anyone. I created this profile after my girlfriend Eve came across a vice article reporting on the site and sang its praises. The one person I know who has a profile is sitting right next to me playing Halo and watching me type. Besides that I have told exactly 2 friends about the site. One of these people may potentially make a profile but I haven't heard much just yet.
I found myself weighing my options on how to approach this situation. Do I make a post on facebook about spacehey so that people I know IRL will be able to interact with me. or do I keep this a nice little secret social media site where I can go to escape the usual social media sites. Let's consider the following...
I have an active account on facebook and I have 556 friends. Not even on a daily basis, I interact with about 8 or 10 people. I see posts from the same 15 to 20 people and the rest is ads and posts from groups that have long since overstayed their welcome. Out of those 556 friends I would ssay that I have met about 90% of them in IRL. Of those people I have met in real life i would say that I spent a meaningful amount of time with maybe 100 of them. There are a lot of people who I met once or twice and now we have an instant window into one another's lives. Once more, mutual relationships are well documented so that we are all just one step closer to each other.
Now comes the ugly part. I consider myself accepting of anyone who isn't hurting other people. Your age, sex, race, religion, orientation, gender, etc is all fine with me. I want to interact with good people cool hobbies and maybe a bit of wisdom that I could not have uncovered on my own. A lot of the people I have become familiar with, despite their position or beliefs, have taken up a "I always have to be right" mentality. This is often added to a "holier than thou" complex. I am not perfect, I will not pretend to be perfect, and I do not want to be perfect. As a person I have flaws but I don't want to hide these flaws. I'll usually be the first person to let you know the things that I cannot do and I wear my heart on my sleeve about it.
Now that I have said where I come from i have to decide where I want to go. I would love to have a few friends from the real world on here, but at the same time I have been enjoying meeting new people who I have no previous connection to. I think I'm going to let people find out about spacehey on their own and then I'll decide what to do after. In the meantime, I'm going to continuing meeting all of you and would love to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions.
-Brandon
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Vicky
On the original MySpace, I think 95% of my friends were people I didn't know in real life. Same with Yahoo Chat and AIM. I'm still friends with a number of them, we just shifted platforms together over time. Still have never met them in person.
It was different back then, when you were online you didn't think much at all about talking to new people. In fact a lot of the social sites or ways of communicating revolved around that idea.
But the Facebook mentality where you don't add people unless you're 100% on them and everyone uses their real name and everything is serious and angry seems to have taken over the internet now. I think we've missed out on a lot because of that. It hurts me more than most because I am reclusive in real life and that makes for a pretty dull online social experience given the current conditions.
I'm not optimistic about this platform long term but we certainly need something like the old MySpace with little/no censorship and the ability to just connect with people. I think the closest thing we have is Discord but the demographic is really young and they're reluctant to mix with anyone older.
I agree with the Discord sentiment; I actually only use it intermittently. A few of my gamer friends use it all the time so every now and then I will jump in a conversation with them.
I can imagine that your online experience must be a bit unfulfilling as of late because of the optimization and, by extension, lack of creativity on the internet as a whole. a childhood friend of mine was visiting this weekend and we actually had this exact conversation. Just 10 or 15 years ago you could legitimately get lost surfing the net but now everything has to have a purpose and a hyper-specific target audience. Spacehey has been good for this, but it feels a little bit empty at times. I like to equate it to a local mall that isn't doing too well; even though there are only a few stores left, its still fun to walk around every now and then.
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