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Hi.
I'll maybe treat this as a livejournal for all my shit, maybe just some way to try and find new people to talk to or to just check how bad my English grammar has gotten over the past few months.
Anyway, hi! I'm Mihael, 18 (19 this July), trans ftm, and I think I just got ghosted for real.
I met this guy on Boo, and I'm not going to sugarcoat it because my friends didn't like him either, he was lovebombimg me for almost a month until last Thursday he didn't reply. At least I'm a little more mature to realize that this wasn't my fault, but it still stings that dating (both generally and as a trans guy) is the most difficult thing ever. I don't want to follow the same patters he used with me unconsciously when I talk to others, because I do want that middle point between a slow burn and a not so slow type of thing, y'know?
Being single is nice, before someone comes at me to say that I need to learn how to be by myself. I manage just well! I make money off commissions, I do amazing in college, and I have friends who like me.
I'm too lazy to add more because I just woke up lmao. I'll write again sometime if someone actually seed this and comments or something, or just sees this in general so if you do, hello and byee!!
Signing off.
-M.
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ajmetz
Hi, yeah I saw this - was just browsing the romance blogs in the blogs section. Yeah, there's always a balance to strike. Am reminded of the song - slow it down - when it comes to a balance between lots of attention and not enough attention -
...and good of you to even know about and spot love bombing. I got love bombed once, and didn't immediately recognise it could be the start of being treated badly / a toxic relationship.
I identify with what you say about dating being difficult. I believe that comes down to humans being so complex. That said, when you have good chemistry with someone, things can very rapidly become very easy. I once kept trying to change myself to get along with someone better, and then around the same time, made friends with someone who appreciated me exactly as I was, which helped my self confidence, and also made me wonder if my problem is focusing too much on improving existing problematic relationships, when I should perhaps simply be widening the number of people I know, to discover someone with whom, everything suddenly feels effortless with. =).
If your person was love bombing you as the first stage in a potentially toxic relationship, then being ghosted by them might be a good thing, ;-).
Forgot the Slow It Down link, =). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHC4S6y1rAc
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