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Why having no friends is actually a good thing. (English is my second language, sorry if I make any mistakes)
I basically grew up alone, with no friends. Even if I had any friends, they would end up manipulating me, using me, lying to me etc. And because of that, I could never truly believe that there are people who want to be with me, just because.
I used to have lots of friends before, keeping my circle big, but not anymore. Keeping a small circle is actually way better than a big one. For example: I have only 1 friend. I have a lot of schoolmates tho and I'm completely fine with that.
Another thing, why is everyone calling everyone freinds? A friend is the person you constntly talk to, almost every day to update what's happening in your life etc. NOT the one you rarely even see, don't like, wouldn't hang out outside of your school, workplace. Those are your schoolmates or work buddies. 'Friend' is a strong connection, be careful on which person you use it on.
Anyway, back to the point. When we find friends, we usually run to them as soon as anything happens. Doesn't matter if its exciting, sad, happy even just to spill the tea. Even when we lose one friend, we run to the other, but why?" The first person you should be running to when anything bad happens is yourself. You don't need anyone else to depend on, but yourself. Sit with the feeling, cry, journal, do anything.
You know why people often feel lonely when they're without their friends? It's because they're not friends with themselves. You might be thinking that i'm just an introvert who likes being alone all the time and eventually die with 9 cats. But no, i'm actually an ambivert!
To deepen your relationship with yourself do this: Journal, answer shadowing questions, listen to positive self-help videos like Thewizardliz or TamKaur or Persephone.
That's all, until next time!!
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twinklelore
I really admire how deeply you’ve reflected on the nature of relationships, both with others and yourself. It’s so true that the word ‘friend’ is often overused and diluted, and finding someone who genuinely connects with you in a meaningful way is rare. What really stands out to me is your insight about turning inward when things go wrong. There’s so much strength in being able to sit with your emotions and process them alone, rather than seeking validation or comfort from others. It’s a reminder that true peace and confidence come from within, not from external sources. The way you’ve shifted your perspective on loneliness and self-relationship is inspiring. Journaling, reflecting, and working on yourself are steps that help create the kind of balance we all need. Thanks for sharing this wisdom—it's a reminder that we’re enough on our own, and that’s a powerful thing.
I really admire the way you said this. It's like everything you say is poetry, and that's beautiful. It's almost as if I just spit out words in this blog and you glued them together and made something even more beautiful. I appreciate you for this comment
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Thank you but my comment is the result of your thoughts in your blog, so credit is all yours 💐
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Hii ! I'm just a random person that came across ur post (totally ignore my comment if u want lol), but just wanted to say that I appreciate ur post !! I grew up with basically no friends, and even when I made friends they would move away for school or life reasons lol so I would always end up being alone. I always felt insecure about my social skills and the fact that I didn't have friends. Over the years I learned the difference between being "alone" and being "lonely". I find comfort in being alone with myself. I wish the world would stop pitying people who choose to be alone !! Being your own best friend is actually one of the biggest strengths !
This is so true! I relate to you so much and I think being your own bestfriend can benefit you in a lot of ways! You don't NEED to have many friends. Being alone is actually very comforting, atleast for me
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