For Everyone

I want to help the right people here who are reading this, mainly those who are stuck or just feel empty for an reason or another.

Those who have started dating, I really can't say it enough, communicate. You've heard it countless of times but believe me, over half of couples take it for granted. If you end up in an argument, discuss what the other needs and what you need, maybe the other wants space for 20 minutes before talking and so on. If you don't feel like somedays talking, say it. It'll hurt more if you just respond shortly to your partner and avoid talking. Discuss what both want in life, discuss flaws that could be fixed in both. If you've been left, it'll hurt especially if you're the type to love forever.

There's nothing wrong with loving even if you've been left, the sad part and hurtful part is you can't show it actively. You need to in an sense "go forward" but I don't mean this in the stereotypical way (Find a new partner, more fish in the sea and so on and so forth), you will continue to miss your partner, some people can't get over that and that is okay. And I do not want to feed some people false sense of hope to who are going through this, but if you change, become the best version of yourself, maybe, just maybe your partner will come back. It always depends on the situation and not everyone returns but you'd be surprised how many get back even after months. 

One thing I want to say, don't be friends with your partner. Mainly because A) It'll hurt more because you love and B) If there is that small chance to get back together, being friends can destroy it. Keep the door open for your partner if you know he or she is the one and say that to your partner. Don't try to focus on will she/he come back, just keep the door open in the background, think is it worth it.

One thing I find silly is "No Contact", sure like in some cases, do it if you've been cheated on or something severe but I don't know, no contact feels ridiculous. I get the idea, just feels too "dramatic" I guess. I'm not saying you can talk to your partner everyday, it will bring pain if you do. But like you can ask how he or she is doing after you've broken up, don't do it everyday or week but when you think the time is right, ask. Give them respectable space.

I hope this gives atleast one person some clarity or understanding, to those who've started dating, don't be afraid of mistakes, they happen. Don't blame anyone, just accept it and move on. To those who've been left or those who have broken up with their partner, I truly am sorry. I wish the right partners here get back because I know not everybody deserves that pain, some sadly realize their mistakes when they see that they have been left but like I said, some can get back, don't cling onto that hope or think shes or hes coming back but keep the door open if it happens, those who are reading this, you never know what the world will bring you.

I hope this helps someone, even if my advice is poor. Good luck.