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So if anyone else read my last blog and got to the end, she broke up with me.
She told me that she still has feelings for me, but that she is way too afraid of being vulnerable and intimate with someone. This fear is so big that she feels like right now is not the time for her to be in a relationship. I'm just so exhausted, I want to help her, but it seems like she just can't make up her mind about me. I need to be with someone who loves me without doubt, but no one compares to her.
She's all I want, all I've ever wanted
What's worse is that she wants everything to go back to how it was, be friends. but I just can't. I still have feelings for her and I can't pretend to be happy when all I want to do is crawl in a hole and die
I guess I can't really ask for advice on this one, but I would love to hear people's opinions/reassurance. Ur girls going THROUGH IT
I guess Winners don't really Love Winning
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Cosmo
sorry to hear that but yeah my advice is just try to avoid her as possible she is just giving you some fake excuses ands try to invest in new relations with new friends and ppl
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I’m so sorry I read your post and that’s awful what happened. Honestly I think you dodged a bullet here. You don’t want to waste your time with someone who couldn’t figure out what they wanted or how they feel. Coming from someone whose ex was similar, it gets better with time. It may take a while, but I promise the feelings will fade and it will get better.
Honestly the best advice I can give you is to just invest in your other relationships and yourself. Pick up hobbies, maybe try out new routines. And definitely give yourself time and space away from that group because at this point in lay be in your best interest to take some time and give everyone a chance to cool off and think.
You have the whole world out in-front of you with endless possibilities. I promise you the right one will come when it’s the right time. And more importantly they’ll be clear with their intentions and their feelings. It’ll be okay I promise ! <3
Excita
I am sorry to hear that, I understand that if you seriously loved someone, you technically can't "move on". Is that a bad thing? Guess it depends, from my perspective, no. Sure it'll hurt forever but you will hopefully find peace in the noise and maybe find someone else, that's just maybe if you want someone else.
I also don't want to feed false hope but if you both change and give time, who knows? Maybe you will get back together if your partner is open to it after some time. I don't know specifically how you both are like so I can't say should you or should you not get back, that's a question only you can answer, is it healthy?
And don't take my word for it, I am poor at helping but I say don't be friends with your partner. Why? Because you can't, you aren't technically rejecting your partner, its not like you're saying "Hell no, I don't wanna be friends, leave", you just can't and that's an fact. If ex partners can suddenly be friends after years of being together, I will wonder did both even love each other to begin with?
But I understand why people do it, especially young people because they arent willing to let go. Am I saying let go? Nope, just find peace. If you love someone even after a break-up, you will, you can't change that. I wish you prayers and that just hopefully you can get back if that is an healthy relationship or both change. But I also want to say don't cling on to that small hope that your partner will come back, just keep the door open just incase your partner comes back, change as an person and show you are the best version of yourself. Don't also cling onto "What if?" questions, they hurt obviously.
Good luck.
Winnie
It sounds like this girl just keeps coming up with all these excuses or reasons its very frustrating i hope everything ends okay
yeah definitely, I think she has a lot to work through. Thank u for your comment :p
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ActualCanela
tbh, if u do have the time and will of being in a relationship and that person doesn't, it'll be better if u searched for someone willing to give the same u do.
I don't want to sound rough, but u might be wasting ur time a little bit. My advice, go back to being friends after u have taken ur time to heal from that experience. Wish you the best of lucks
honesty is the most helpful so ty!! >.<
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np dude, hope everything is going alr
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