Does anyone else get super depressed around their birthday?

shit, does anyone else just hate their birthday? for me, something big happens every year before my birthday that just completely fucks up my mood for the rest of the time leading up to the big day.

My birthdays this Sunday and I'm turning 20. I don't have my own place (though I'm in the process of doing that ig), I can't drive, and I have a shitty part time job. I got into an argument with my friends brother (I'm staying with my friends mom ATM) because he was wondering who dirtied a pan, and cuz nobody knew who, I suggested he just use one of the three other clean pans in the kitchen to make what he wanted, and he got pissed and took it as me 'disrespecting him' when really he was just mad cuz he wanted to have somebody wash a dish for him. he went on a whole rant calling me a freeloader and claiming I don't pick up after myself which are both incorrect statements. for one, I'm paying to say here, and two, I clean up after MYSELF, not cleaning up after other people doesn't mean I don't clean for myself. it got to the point where he started screaming at me and even his girlfriend came out and started jumping into the argument as if I wasn't the only one in the room making sense. 

a dish you want to use is dirty? you don't want to clean it? no one else wants to clean it? there's clean dishes in the pantry? just use a clean dish.

Now the mood in the house is shit cuz I've been avoiding him completely and haven't been in the kitchen even though I know I didn't do anything wrong, it feels like I'm paying for it. luckily my friend was on my side when I told her about it, but that didn't mean anything was gonna be done about it.

I just really hope me and her can find a decent place so I can get out of this situation. I don't even like that I'm basically bumming it out in somebody else's house, but I've been working too hard and I've been nothing but mindful and respectful. I buy my own food, I get myself to work, I clean before and after I go anywhere, and I make sure I'm mindful about using electricity and water. 

But now I have to be even MORE mindful of the shit that I've already been doing. at this point I've just been avoiding being in the house as much as possible, unless its night time.

Idk man, maybe I shouldn't let it bother me because at the end of the day his best friend and his mother both said they understood where I was coming from, I just don't like feeling like i'm the one paying for the dumb argument and feeling like I should just let it pass without even receiving an apology.