DNI & before you interact - please read before adding me!!

hi! i feel like i need to establish my boundaries a little better, since maybe it has not been made very clear on my profile. 

first things first - basic dni criteria.

if you are below the age of 15 years old, DNI. my account is *not* appropriate enough for younger people. 

while i do understand that there is a good dominance of 13-14 year olds on this site, i needed this to be stated clearly. i will immediately decline friend requests of people who are younger than 15, no matter how many common interests we share. i am 19 years old. 15 is the minimum acceptable age for me. if there is no age listed on your profile, then i'll most likely have to politely decline as i don't want to risk anything.

i will sometimes step into NSFW territory. i will sometimes talk about more sensitive topics such as s/h. 

i understand some people are not comfortable with that. if you aren't, then there is no pressure to add me or anything. the NSFW thing will always be pretty *mild* since as much as yes i have my ideations, i don't talk too much directly about it. sometimes i will hint at it. as for the more triggering topics, i want to reassure that i am okay mentally (most of the time), but there are instances where i just need to let some steam blow. i joined spacehey with the hopes of having a safe space for all of this, along with finding friends who will (hopefully) be supportive of me.

if your mental health issues project too much on other people, i won't accept.

i always assess profiles before accepting friend requests. i'm all for advocating for mental health, but i am also in no position to deal with people who aren't doing so well mentally, since i'm already dealing with my own issues. if you really are struggling, please try to seek help. i'd love to be there and support all my friends, of course, but there is only so much i can do sometimes. i have a history of putting others before myself, being people's "therapist," and making my own mental health worse due to neglecting it. this is more of a safety protocol for myself. i do not want to return to the dark place i was in when i had to be that person for nearly everyone among my friends. again, i still support everyone no matter their issues, but i'd like to protect my peace and if it interferes with me then i'd rather not interact.

and as a slight follow up to that,

desperate men with the term "loser", "loner" etc on their profile DNI. what i mean by this:

can't believe i have to say this, but holy he'll have i had people dm me and trying to make an advance on me. first of all, im not a girl and i think some people are stepping in with the impression that i am. girl character pfp ≠ girl user. i also unfortunately have a life. i'm a uni student and usually am busy with exams, projects, etc., i have hobbies, i have family i spend time with and go out with. most of the time, i'm not available 24/7 and i personally struggle with answering dms. i have a really low social battery, and while i aim to make new friends, i just cannot socialize all of the time. again, i can't be a therapist for people because it gets really mentally taxing to me. also please it's only actually attractive if a woman or a queer person calls themselves that, it's disgusting when cis men do /hj.

in regards to typing quirks:

i wanted to make a statement abt this! first off, i am in no means against them. anyone can write however they want. if you use them, feel free to add me, i dont mind! HOWEVER, i can't guarantee that i'll accept, depending on how much the typing quirk goes. if i have a hard time reading it, i might not accept. even though i speak pretty much at a native english level, reading things like e.g. l33t is something i struggle with a lot and it gives me headaches trying to decipher it. it'll just depend from person to person, just don't get too upset if i choose to decline. this is just personal preference.

speak another language other than english?

that's fine! i speak english to a native level and french to a fluent level (despite french being my mother tongue). i'd like to keep my interactions with friends to languages we can both mutually speak. i've had accounts try to add me with no indication that they spoke eng/fr, with the profile being a completely different language and everything. language barriers are tough, i know, but i most likely won't add people who don't share mutual languages with me. i don't mind if you post things in your own language, but it just means i won't interact with it! so long as we can communicate, you're good to add me <3 

keep in mind, i block freely sometimes! i don't do it often, but if i fear that we're not vibing and if i feel a little uncomfortable, i might unadd or block. again, i dont do this often, but i like to protect my peace, and it is NOTHING personal if i do resort to that. <3

i was not as strict about this before when i first made this account. i let it slide. i accepted any friend requests that came through my way. but, i figure i should probably be clear about this once and for all. 

i appreciate if anyone has read all of this. i just needed this to finally be clear.

thank you. yours truly,

Kaydence.