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For context, i first started dating my boyfriend in july or august of 2023. Everything was fine for a month, not a single arguement except who loves the other more, etc etc. When we weren't able to see eachother irl, we'd talk on Quotev (before the mods removed groups, feed, messages, and chatbox). After the first month, he had to move away from where we lived. We agreed to be long distance, and still regularly called eachother, chatted, and played games. After some time, he kept on growing more and more distant from me, until we only talked on Quotev, yet he mostly ignored me. Seeing how he hadn't broken up with me yet, I was very confused. Along with that, when i told him i loved him, he asked if it was platonic or romantic. That really hurt. After crying for about 15 minutes, i finally asked him if he still liked me. He said no, since he was transmasc and gay now (he was a she when we got together, and we were both lesbian girls at the time).Β
I accepted it, and we agreed to be friends, even though I felt like total shit to watch him ignore me and be dry with me whenever we talked, just to be sooo happy with other people. Two days later, he got a bf. He moved on that fast, or so I thought. Instead, he had been dating the guy since he moved away. They were online dating, and didnt know eachother IRL (no issue with this alone, just saying), yet every time they talked i could just tell my ex loved his new bf more than he ever loved me, even though i bawled my eyes out every time i thought of him, or heard what we called "our song". We were both 12 at the time, but he would lie about his age online, saying he was 15. The account of his bf said 16 in the bio. I asked my ex about why he's dating a 16 year old at 12, and he immediately blocked me.
As soon as that happened, I went to my (now ex) best friend, Z, who agreed to let me make a fake account pretending to be her to get close to my ex (my ex had met Z multiple times, and they were already good friends). From that, I learnt that my ex regularly joked with others about their sad little lesbian ex, and how stupid i was. I also learnt that the bf of my ex WAS actually 16. Once again, I asked my ex about it (as Z), and got blocked. Finally done with befriending the ex, I made a new account as a completely random person, and instead became friends with their bf. Within a month of talking to the bf (Who I will call A), we became best friends, and they frequently vented to me about how upset they were with my ex. I learnt that both my ex and A were poly, and started dating the same person (i will call S).Β
My ex said it was a "polyship", while A told me how they were uncomfortable with that and wanted to date my ex and S separately, but my ex got mad over that and they argued. On the side, I made another account anonymously telling A what the real age of my ex was, with screenshots, photos, videos, and other forms of proof.Β As I guessed, A came to vent to me about it, and how they were scared that it was true, and that they didnt want to be seen as a pedo even if they had no idea. Then, I decided to come clean as the one behind it all, along with being the former gf of my ex. They were fine with it, and quickly broke up with my ex, and soon enough, their other partner, who was 15, left them aswell. i feel no guilt a year later, but i'm starting to wonder if i went too far.
AITA?
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Lil drummer boy
so what I have to say is no you didn't go far and your not the asshole I would've have done the same thing so but anyway 2 don't date people online because you could have no idea if they're cheating or not but damn I gotta agree with you on that he\she deserved it
and NTA
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dizastamusic
you will never find real love on the internet you need to give up.
MagicMintπ
You guys are both fucked up and weird idfk
Chai
Tf? 12yo?? First get enough education then date ppl online.its so dangerous for kids , especially and stop messing with other ppl's life.
But fair since your ex did you bad since he ghosted u and shi...nta
sakiki
Lwk ESH... But OP had the right intentions, although misguided and the other guy was pretty innocent
But why get into such a situation in the first place
Kristian
No, you're all just stupid and immature.
gothgeogrl99
NTA for sure. While it is not right to pretend to be someone you are not, especially with an ex-partner. You did the right thing putting an end to a potentially dangerous relationship. You are young, give yourself grace and move on from this situation. I would not lose any sleep over this.
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If someone is in a situation where they are being taken advantage of by an older person/lying about their age online, tell their parents.
But aside from that, once you have broken up with someone, you need to let them go and move on. While it's good your ex isn't in an inappropriate relationship anymore, inserting yourself in their business, creating fake accounts/pretending to be other people to try and orchestrate breakups is concerning.
Bright!!!
nta!! your ex is clearly unwell, and you saved A from accidental pedophilia lolz
TorsoMuncher103
NTA you just saved a guy from continuing to committing accidental pedophilia
Farren_lolz
Nta
NozomiKaizoku
nta
Lilith
nta!
georgia. β
nta, a lesbians revenge story is always valid. but pls stop dating people online at such a young age
Beanz!!!
nta 4 sure
bibi (^w^)
NTA but im not gonna lie this was a confusing read
Very confusing read but NTA
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phillip β
NTA
Bailey
NTA. You probably saved A and S from some pretty serious allegations. There could have been better ways to go about that, but you were well intentioned and smart about it. Go you!!
β£ Lab Specimen
NTA he deserved that
ProjectColor Sys
NTA. Your ex should have told you how he felt about you before just flat out ignoring you. He also should have told you that he was dating someone else irl. On top of that, lying about his age? That could have EASILY ruined someone's life if you weren't the one to expose him.
I don't even blame you for feeling no guilt. And you didn't go too far, trust me.