Mothers

Okay so my mom and I haven't always had the best relationship. Like to the point where we've had periods of not talking to each other, and not for like a day or so but months. Anyway so things with her have been good lately and we like hang out and talk to each other and blah blah blah. Anyway today my mom was bothering me all day long acting like a younger sibling and pushing my buttons. So I get up and leave to go to our room (long story), but she follows me in there and continues to bother me. Me being fed up I tell her that I seriously want her to stop and that it gets to a point until it becomes annoying. I also said that this is why I seriously don't like her sometimes which was mean and I shouldn't have said that. Butttt then she just immediately started getting super defensive and started saying that I'm just as annoying and that I also don't know where the line is, and that she's thought about doing stuff to me  because of how annoying I am. And like listen I get it I can be annoying too but it's the fact that she brought it up just to justify her actions. Like I'm completely fine with you telling me something like that if you're mature about it and like point out what you want me to change. Because I am not a stubborn person and I am willing to make a change. My mom on the other handddd is not like that and gets defensive about everything! It's just so tiring at this point but hey at least I only got one more year.