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I usually don't find myself making these. Talking about a terrible day at work. There's so much I can say, however, I don't want to fully expose myself because the internet is always forever and my face is plastered all over my page.
Anyways, if you're new here (Which you most likely are). I work at a funeral home, and I want to become a funeral director. The funeral industry has a very conservative client base (old folks), and I'm surrounded by Christians which I don't necessarily mind.
However, it's frustrating to see how easily Christians can express their religious views...I'm envious. As I yearn for the same freedom.
Yesterday, we had several different people come to the funeral home to attend a service....the service is set for next week. I kindly told them they had come a week too early, they then asked if I was Christian and if I was "saved".
This put me in a dilemma in my mind. I'm at work, is it appropriate to speak about religion? Especially since they came when we were in the middle of closing. I didn't want to engage in this convo, as I didn't want to get in trouble for having them stay there after closing. Should I lie, and inform them that I was Christian so they can leave? But why should I lie, that isn't fair to me. I simply don't believe in the same things they do. On top of that, I don't feel like explaining my whole belief system to a stranger.
I didn't counter this. I didn't want to continue this conversation, and I'm trying to look for a way out. Luckily my coworker, who is a baby Christian tried helping as much as she could. However, they kept insisting. I'm simply just standing there, trying to keep a smile on my face so I won't laugh. I was trying my best to remain as professional as possible.
The thing that frustrated me the most was the fact they were trying to convert me then and there. Saying that it would just take 5 minutes. Mind you these people never asked me what I believed in, they simply asked if I was Christian and if I was "saved".
At the end of it, after I stood there unwavering, they said they would pray for me and also asked if they could pray for me right then. Obviously, I said yes, I just wanted them to leave.
There I am. Standing. While three men stood around me, all just praying.
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Lulu_cat
Im a Christian and they have NO RIGHT to keep insisting on converting you, plus they shouldn't even ask those kinds of questions like-, it's just so irrespectful, i hope you won't deal with that kind of situation again
Erah Mar
I feel you. I don't live in the south, but I came from a conservative area, and my mother used to teach Sunday School. Earned three bibles. My faith views are definitely something that I've never shared with her, and am not looking forward to doing so one day soon.
All I can say is keep those devotions strong, and keep following your feet. It'll be wonderful to have a non-evangelical funeral director in the system!
Blessed be, hon. <3
Brooke
I relate to this all too well. I grew up in the conservative South. I still live here but not in my hometown. It comes up all the time, and I generally have to brush comments off. Luckily, at my current job, I am not allowed to discuss religion or politics and just say so. But I've worked at nursing homes before where it has come up repeatedly. I love that you're pursuing this though! As an athiest who is telling her husband to NOT have a religious service and all. I would love to just be buried and have a tree planted on top. No headstone or anything. Natural burial.
I love that! I love learning about different funeral traditions, religious and humanistic. Humanist funerals especially, because without religion, I feel you can truly make it personal.
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Oliveoyl
That is very frustrating. It's good that you are so professional! I don't know what i'd do personally so im pretty amazed at how you handled it. Maybe talk to your supervisor about that particular family before their service in case they try to do something like that next week to other less professional staff members....? Not sure what you would say but I don't know maybe it's worth something..... You're doing great!
Thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot to me💕
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SPOOKY
saved? yeah saved by satan!
Saved by Lady Aphrodite 💕
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Danitza ☽
I'm sorry you had a terrible day.
I've been there and it sucks. I'm an atheist but come from a conservative, Catholic family and growing up was hell. I've always had to lie about my beliefs and still hesitate to talk about atheism in fear that someone is going to try and "save me." It's like, the only thing I need saving from is them. 
Every time they mentioned if I was "saved". I kept thinking to myself saved from who???
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Laura.jpg
This is SO frustrating -____-
Don't they realize that they say & do things like a sect??? It's incredible how brainwashed they are.
Seriously!! It's so hard to speak with them because they have such a matryr complex. They feel the need to save people but when people criticize them or rightfully don't fuck with them, they feel "attacked" and pulled the "They hated Jesus first"
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Tell Me Secrets
It's a really tough situation to find yourself in. I feel like you should have a series of small deflecting statements ready.
"Are you saved?"
"Thank you for thinking about me but I try to keep my personal faith and professional duties separate."
"Why?"
"It's important that I'm focused on my duties. Keeping my personal faith to myself allows me to provide the same level of service to people of all faiths."
*They continue.*
"I understand this is important to you. But we need to focus on *whatever tasks are at hand*. I've made my preference known to you and would appreciate your respect in this regard."
Thank you!! I will remember this in the future. I greatly appreciate your input 💕
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auroraaa
wow hahah good job for standing there. save you? tf.
although, ive had religious folk come to the front door and talk all that shiz niz with me and it was for like half an hour. i literally wanted to kms. saying how Jesus can forgive me for all my sins. look, i respect people and other religions but i dont like when they force their stuff on other people.
It's really their savoir complex. It's very frustrating because they come off as hella tone-deaf. Like read the room
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Jon 🐇
omg that is so teh suxxzorz and also a little hilarious :O
I had to stop myself from giggling
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