start taking control of your life!

Life is tough, but the more you go through it now, the better the outcome. Next time you find yourself in a similar situation, remember that you’ve gone through worse and survived, so this time will be easier in comparison. The grass can be greener on the other side… but first, you do have to climb that fence.

And yeah meditation is beneficial in helping you clear your mind and figure out what to do next, but not everyone can sit there for 10 minutes and just “let their thoughts flow”.

Cutting to the core of the issue is my specialty, and rather than suggesting you “sleep more, drink water, and exercise”, I’ll be straight up and tell you how you can start to change things up and add a little pizzazz to life!

So go on and pick your struggle(s) below and see what I think you should try doing.

Does life keep throwing you curveballs and you feel like you can’t catch up to where you want to be and can’t win?

Slow the f*ck down. Seriously. You need to slow down and realize what you are going through and how far you’ve come. You’re running around trying to get so much done that you’re forgetting how to live and breathe in the moment.

If things don’t go as you planned and your first reaction is to lash out and get angry at yourself or others… I’m sorry to say that life will never open its doors to future possibilities if you don’t know how to be mindful. Yes, be honest about how you feel and where you need help, but don’t do so in the heat of the moment. Take a beat, a bathroom break, or whatever, and then come back to it with a calmer tone and clear mind.

Or maybe you act like it doesn’t bother you (but it does) and you couldn’t care less about what happens next. Acting too nonchalantly on the outside will make the world around you carry the same energy… it won’t care when things don’t go your way either. Yes, the Universe is a sassy queen.

But I am here to tell you that it is SO much better to be open and vulnerable to those you trust. By creating boundaries, you’re acknowledging that you deserve better, that people can’t just use you, and that you care about yourself!

Remember: surviving doesn’t mean you’re living. Enjoy all the little things around you. It’s good to feel things, ask for help, and set limits as to what you’re willing to accept and what you want out of this life. This newfound confidence won’t happen overnight, but if you start little by little — planting those seeds will grow into something beautiful before you know it.

Does life feel stagnant, boring, and repetitive?

Then honey it is on YOU to take life by the balls and switch things up! Pick up a new hobby, style your hair differently, walk down a new street, or buy that shirt you’ve always wanted to try. It doesn't matter, it just has to be something you’ve never tried before.

Something that creates a spark in you and "disrupts the timeline" will lead you to a new exciting chapter.

Believe it or not, a whole new friendship can flourish just from someone complimenting your new shirt. Perhaps that book you checked out will start a conversion with someone recommending you more books and movies, resulting in you having plans to hang out in the future.

And maybe, just maybe, you’ve decided to start walking around town and paying close attention to all the signs and buildings in the area. You might surprise yourself with a new hidden store, restaurant, or show next week that sounds like it was made just for you! (spiritually, we call that alignment)

To summarize, you can’t expect life to magically become exciting and colorful as you lie in bed doing the same routine… you have to initiate that journey by stepping out of your comfort zone and showing that you’re ready and open to changes!

Ask yourself: “Is life boring... or is it me?”

Do you feel like everyone else has it better than you ever will?

First, give yourself credit for where you are and what you HAVE achieved-- no matter how small. If you're struggling to find anything to be proud of…time to set new goals!!! :D

You have to keep in mind that everyone is at a different level with different experiences and struggles. Some people don’t even have goals! They never stop and think of what can be better and what they can strive for. The fact that you care is already a sign of making progress!

Beware of setting unrealistic goals and expectations as well. It is too easy to give up on yourself after not getting the results you wanted and not want to try again. You have to start small.

Let's say you want to start eating healthier. That’s a great goal to set for yourself! But don’t immediately jump into creating new recipes with new ingredients you’ve never tried before. Baby steps. Start with eating less junk food and aim for a month of no fast food. Allow your body and mind to adjust to these changes and slowly introduce healthier alternatives.

“Not all of us can do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” — Mother Teresa

All great things come in time. We all learn at a different pace and we’re all set in different environments. Allow yourself the space, time, and mistakes to discover who you are and what you should be doing.

So that’s all for now lovelies. I would love nothing more than to hear your questions and any advice you would like to receive from your fave diva blogger! (me, duh)

I hope you picked up on something you may not have heard before and that it kick-starts a new chapter for you! We all need words of encouragement every once in a while.

xoxo