i love valentines day, and you should too!! even if you're all alone in the world, really, it's not so bad. :)

hello!! i know not a lot of people will see this, and even less people will actually be willing to read it (i'm sorry...i know it's long...) but i just had to talk about it somewhere...why do people hate valentines day so much? i mean, realistically, i know why, but when i try to actually feel it, i just can't understand why.

personally speaking, it's one of my favorite holidays!! so even though i technically know the reason why people hate it, i can't actually understand that reasoning.

i mean, first of all, even if you aren't in a romantic relationship, valentines day is still a holiday you can enjoy! for example, all week i have been melting all kinds of regular and chocolate into little hearts for my friends. i don't have a partner or anything like that in my life yet, but it's not like romantic love is the only kind of love that exists in the world!!! 

i love using valentines day as a day to celebrate my friends. even if i don't even really have any SUPER close friends, i'm still grateful for even just my more casual buddies for sticking around, and continuing to spend time with me! 

but let's forget about that for a second, and focus on romantic love. let's say for just a moment that you prefer to treat valentines day as a romance only holiday. even if that was the case, i would still love this holiday. because love as a whole, even if only romantic is such a beautiful thing. so why do people hate to see it so, so much???

logically speaking, i guess i get being jealous of people around you who are in couples when you aren't. i've been single my whole life, but i'm a complete and utter romantic, so i get what it's like to yearn. 

but i don't understand the animosity towards those who have lucked out romantically before you have. i don't think i'll ever be able to understand what it's like to see a happy couple and get genuinely angry. 

and before you call me gullible, i know that people are probably just kidding when they say these things, but every valentine's day all i see, all day, is all kinds of petty hate. "i hope all the couples in the world suffer terrible break ups." "valentine's day is the worst fucking holiday. i hate it." "i hate seeing all the happy lovey-dovey couples around on v-day. it makes me sick."  okay, okay. we know. you don't like valentines day.

but why?! i just don't get it!! 

i mean, all i ever see in the media is situationships, and talking stages, and couples that don't even seem like they like each other, let alone love each other. all i ever hear about is love bombing, and abuse, and breakups, and divorce statistics. and whenever, by some incredible algorithmic luck, you happen to see a happy couple, doing literally anything, there are always a million lonely people there, just waiting to ruin the moment. because i guess if they can't be happy, then no one can. it's all just so fucking bleak!

it's hard not to feel completely hopeless about love when that's all you ever get to see. and it sometimes makes me so, so sad. it sometimes makes me feel like all of the true romantic love in the world is just dead, and there's no chance that i will ever get to experience a truly fulfilling relationship in my life.

but, when valentines day comes around, it's like all the discomfort around showing affection and care towards the people you love has temporarily been lifted, and all the healthy, happy couples suddenly come out of the woodworks to show their loved one how grateful they are to have them in their life. for once, without having to fucking dig for it, you have the chance to see people who genuinely seem to be in love. 

even if the love is just fleeting. even if it's for the very first time. even if the love has been there for 50 straight years. to see that, regardless of their circumstances, they are just happy? happy to be able to celebrate this bond they have with another person? happy to even have a bond great enough to be worth celebrating??? it gives me so much hope.

it's just so refreshing. it's like a little reminder that even when negativity is always what rises to the top of almost every algorithm, every argument, and every conversation, love is always there, waiting. 

and it's like a reminder that, most likely, there is even more love out there somewhere, waiting for me!!!

so, even if you're truly, completely alone this valentines day---even if you don't have a lover, friends, or family---just remember to hope. 

remember that this isn't the end. remember that life goes on. and remember, that even if not right now, there will always still be a chance. a chance that your time too, will eventually come. your time to feel the love. 

and even if you lose it all again, just remember that yet another chance will be there, waiting for you on the other side.

and if you ever feel yourself beginning to forget these crucial things, do yourself a favor look to the already existing couples, friendships, and found families in the world, this time with for inspiration, rather than with envy, and remember to yourself once more: "if they all can do it, i can too. it isn't over yet."