Does anyone actually think southern Fathers care about their children?

Yes this is very vague, and ofc every man is different, but for the most part i feel like they do not. Maybe this is me projecting my daddy issues and diagnosed separation anxiety, but it F-ing sucks. It sucks to feel unwanted. 

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I live in a southern tourist town. its quite small, and the fandom is fizzling out with gen x and ive only met about 4 people in my whole life who've heard of the show, so i doubt anyone would ever think of it after my generation. So we get a lot of the fishing, hunting, beer drinking, drug using type in my area of the south. and that's where my story begins. 

My mother said my Father told her he wanted kids, and wanted to be in his future child's life. I think thats why she had a child with him mainly. but after she was pregnant i think he realized he couldn't exactly trick himself into loving me... Her first clue that he wasn't the best partner however was that they met in the waiting room at the courthouse, my mother getting a divorce and my father, a speeding ticket.

idk my life has been better without an addict for a father, and I'm glad my mother pushed him out of our life before i was really sentient enough to miss him too badly. (don't get me wrong it did mess my head up as a small child because back then i did remember him, but its been about 14 years now so i guess you could say I've healed??)

I'm 18 now tho and after seeing an image of him on Facebook my mom mentioned it to me. I stewed on that for a few days, considered sneaking to look at it on her phone {bc I'm gen z i don't have Facebook lol} If your wondering why i was gonna sneak to see it, its bc my mom has a bad habit of getting angry at me whenever i bring him up. Its really in any compacity but mainly when i mention wanting him to explain to me in the future why he did what he did. i think its part heartbreak and part jealousy?? idk honestly)

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Now this isn't necessarily "my" story to tell but it pertains to my question, and ive been involved in these lives so ill leave it here pretty anonymously:

Growing up i met 2 girls in daycare, well call em K, and P, just for ease and privacy. 

K also didn't have a father, like me, her mother had been married in the past and had children much older than us, she was also seemed to my 5 year old brain to be like 10 years older than my mom, which was odd to see because my mother had me at 32. but i know she was older regardless. 

P had both a mother and a father however, and i guess you could say i was closer to P than i was to K, i only remember going to K's house for a sleepover 1 time and i had to go home n the middle of the night because her 2 story hose furnished in antiques scared the mortal shiza outta me. lol

but P and I were very close. P's mother and father were married when we first started hanging out and he would rarely be home when i slept over, idk what it was about P's mom that made me feel safer than K's but eh.. she was very young, had P at about 18-19 and P had a younger sister, M. M, was just being born when me and P met and i didnt really hang out with her much, my mom liked her tho, treated her like a 2nd child. 

however as a common theme to Dads in my life, P's mom and dad divorced while we were in 4th grade, that was unfortunately the end of the sleepovers for a while. 

me and P picked out our middle school classes together on a field trip.. much to my surprise when she wasn't there on the first day. she had chosen to go to the other middle school in out town... without me or K.. and that was the stop of the sleepovers forever. I only see her or her kind bother at Walmart now.. i haven't seen M in person since she was 9.

me and K had a huge falling out in 2020. I wanted to be free to express myself, but she was rooted in that classic southern way of thinking.. I'm just too liberal for her i guess idk.. 

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But yea, that wraps up my question. "Does anyone actually think southern fathers care about their children."

feel free to answer with ur thought, or just read on ur lunch break. 

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