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I fought with my crush today, (ill call her crush so no name drop n shit) She cares for me i care for her, like a lot. I told her how much her cycle of grief never ends and how much it hurts me to see her going back and forth. With laughing at her ex and crying about her ex. And i did try to care and i still do but she told me im jumping at her for hating the fact that she still didnt block her ex. And she compared me to herself, telling me i still had contact with my ex after breaking up, yet im the one who blocked my ex, i even told her i blocked my abuser long ago, someone i did care a lot in the past but moved on. I dont know if im actually being jumpy but her cycle of grief doesnt just pain her but also me, i care so much and im worried and i wanna help but i have the feeling im wrong.
Im just yapping, im sorry for this huge pile of slop but im just trying so hard not to cut myself more than i already did, so emo i know but its the truth.
I get her point tho, she knew her ex since the age of 5 but she told me shes fully uninterested in him nowadays so im so confused. How can you be uninterested and still go back and forth with laughing at him and crying about him? Ive suggested avoding the media she has him on but she answered „idk“, yeah well how can i help then if you dont take my advice?
And the problem is i regret fighting alr cs i never know what i do is right or wrong nor do i know how to express my bother because it seems so out of pocket and weird for people.
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fxmldr10
I've had very similar problems with this before with the people that I care about and it sounds like you're having the same difficulties I had when I tried helping people like that, honestly when it comes to situations like these I'm not even sure if you can help with it, and that's not to be a downer and demotivate you but for the most part they have to solve that problem for themselves and you can steer them in the right direction of that but you really can't help directly at least in the position that you seem to be in. Don't set too high expectations for yourself when it comes to helping other people because all it does is make you feel worse about it, this is just my opinion but I hope some of it could be of some help to you since I've had some experience with things like this before, I wish you the best of luck!
Im sorry i didnt answer earlier.. i had a top chest surgery n i was dead for a bit but yeah. Youre right n im trying not to hope for much but its really hard.
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I know just give it some time <3 I haven't been active on here either mostly because there isn't much else for me to do once the interactions slow down, so I get distracted with other stuff which causes me not to be active for a few days on here, I'll try my best to be more active though! :3
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