Somethings I carry w/ me to 2025 in relationships

-- All the worst hurt in my life has come from those I've loved that hurt can get deeper and more personal than any other hurt or betrayals this opportunistic society can supply.

-- Adults that lack a *pretty* solid sense of self are some of the most dangerous to break bread with and let into your home, because they'll switch up on you so quickly if it's in their favor. They'll mirror your own image onto you and have you thinking they're the same as you- causing a weird quick connection to occur. 

But these people generally can be socially opportunistic and will drop the act and pick up another mirror to fit into a different situation and leave you feeling confused. 

Specifically if you both share a social group. I call this "peg chasing" behavior(and no not in the hawwt way) Watch out of these people, they really pack a bite when everything eventually kicks back at you.

--Some people will use their friendship with you to under cut you on pay in your profession or passion; weather it's being a performer or entertainer for them, your crotchet, anything you market- some people will use connection as a way to get a discount. 

DO NOT do it, if someone truly love and admired you they'd want to pay you so you can keep going and feel fulfilled and successful. Your friendship shouldn't be a bargaining chip in a transaction.

--If someone talks bad about their other friends to you, I can almost guarantee they're talking bad about you also.

---> If you live with someone, they should care if you're overwhelmed by household chores- it's not just one persons place of living, it's a collaborative environment. If you falter they pick it up, if they falter you pick it up, if you both are down & out then you should both just agree you're off rn and you'll get through it together and bounce back and not beat each other up about it.