୨୧ before you friend — byf

i'm not gonna pretend i'm the easiest person to be friends with because honestly... i'm not always. i'm emotional, i get attached pretty easily, and i can be clingy, jealous, possessive, sensitive, or overly attached sometimes. especially when i really care about someone.

i can overthink things A LOT and sometimes take things more personally than i should. when i'm overwhelmed, i might get quiet, distant, irritated, or say something blunt without thinking about how it sounds. i can be impulsive and occasionally say weird, aggressive, or completely out-of-pocket things when i'm upset.

i'm also aware that i can get jealous or attached, but i genuinely try not to control people because of it. having feelings isn't an excuse to tell someone who they can talk to or what they can do. i'm still learning how to handle those feelings in healthier ways.

i can be petty, hypocritical, dramatic, or just plain difficult sometimes. i'm not saying that as an excuse for bad behavior. i'm just being honest about myself. if i mess up, i'm capable of admitting it and trying to do better.

i'm also an agere / pupper. for me, this is a nonsexual comfort thing. please don't sexualize it, make weird assumptions about it, or treat it like an invitation for anything inappropriate. it's simply one of the ways i express myself and feel comfortable.

some subjects can also be complicated for me personally, so please don't push sexual topics or conversations onto me. i'm still figuring out my own boundaries around certain things and i'd rather people respect that instead of trying to get personal information out of me.

basically: i'm messy, i'm emotional, i'm sometimes a handful, and i'm still figuring myself out. i'm not expecting everyone to understand me, but if you're going to be my friend, i'd rather you know what you're getting into. ♡

୨୧ boundaries

please don't purposely try to make me jealous, test me, provoke me for reactions, or use things i've told you privately against me later.

i really don't like when people dismiss my feelings because somebody else's problems are "worse." if something genuinely bothers me, i'd rather you listen instead of making me feel stupid for being upset.

i also don't appreciate serious things being turned into jokes after i've already said i'm uncomfortable with them. if i tell you to stop doing something, please just stop.

i'm okay with joking around, teasing, being stupid together, and having fun. i'm NOT okay with someone repeatedly crossing a boundary and then hiding behind "it's just a joke."

and please don't treat my agere/pupper side as sexual. it isn't an invitation for that kind of interaction. 

 ୨୧ do not interact — dni

don't interact with me if you're going to sexualize minors, groom people, purposely cross boundaries, manipulate people, harass people, or use someone's vulnerabilities against them.

don't add me just to start drama, purposely provoke me, make fun of serious boundaries, or repeatedly make somebody uncomfortable because you think their reaction is funny.

also don't interact with me if you think being cruel to people is a personality trait, or if you expect me to tolerate behavior that i've already said makes me uncomfortable.

i'm not going to make this section a giant list of every person i dislike. some things are better handled individually.

if you're normal about my boundaries and understand that i'm a little messy sometimes, we're probably fine. if not... there's a little exit button somewhere around here for a reason. ♡ ">

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