"Deer Head Girl" Problem is Bigger than We Thought

I'm sure you've seen the tiktok controversy where this girl (Diana Mae) posed for photos of a butchered deer head at a punk show (Crustmas), brought by Dragged by Chains. I want to talk a bit about how the community reacted to it, and how this is a much deeper issue. 

Some facts (or a quick recap because there's a lot of discourse): 

• There were two deer heads, alleged ethically sourced by a butcher the band knew;
• The deer heads were posed with, played with, trampled, etc;
• The punk show was all-ages;
• Diana Mae claimed that Crustmas was "Crust punk black metal", and other ...interesting takes. 

• Fupa Goddess (Goregrind/Death Metal, Noisegrind) Metallum; 
• JUDGExJUDY (Deathgrind/grindcore);
• Augrah (grindcore);
• A Home Beneath (screamo);
• MEAT (mix of thrash, grindcore, slam) as described on Bandcamp;
• DEGLOVE CHIC (black noise). 
• Dragged by Chains (hardcore)

Why is this so problematic beyond the surface? 

• It takes more than one person, to pull something like this off. If Diana never posted the tiktok, something as problematic as this could have gone unnoticed. At the show, from what I've heard from her perspective, a lot of people seemed to be okay with the deer heads. And the fact that the immediate reaction of people wasn't to leave, but to play around with the animals really make me feel sick. THIS WAS AN ALL AGES SHOW - this adds to how fucked up it is. How can one not consider the wellbeing of literal CHIDLREN? This is so odd, it never should have happened. If what I've speculated above is true, there is (already) a HUGE mentality and acceptability problem in the punk/hardcore scene. I feel like this is a sign that we've strayed too far away from the causes. 
• Dragged by Chains posted an apology - which is so redundant because the purpose was to offend - then apologize for being offensive? The whole thing feels ill-planned, and they didn't even know what type of backlash they would face - do they really know their audience? 
• The way that Diana described metal in general seems like how one would describe the genre with 0 experience and reciting from stigma. The whole "metal is supposed to make you feel uncomfortable" thing shows that she gains little enjoyment out of listening to metal, or her standard of metal. Diana's response was clearly out of touch with reality - little knowledge, little accountability. She also failed to extinguish hardcore subgenres with black metal, those two genres are at the opposite ends of alternative music; I don't get how one can mess it up. 
• A lot of people responding to the situation seem to put themselves on a moral pedestal, drawing this clear line separating them from Diana, and dramatize it on purpose. She absolutely deserves being called out, but I feel like there are those who shake her down simply for the sake of it. When the problem is scene-wide - doubling down on one poseur (we can all agree) is a bit meaningless. Yes, she needs to learn and grow but bullying someone that's nothing more than ignorant, insensitive, and edgy  (I've seen her being called all sorts of things) does not make you better. She's been called an animal abuser - although her behaviour is deeply concerning and it could be the first step to many animal abusers - it is still an irresponsible exaggeration to make. 
• Also, the whole thing is such a first world problem - people act like disrespecting a dead animal is only bad if they see it on tiktok. If you're not vegan, you're not THAT much better than Diana as you'd like to think. It's only bad if I see it, not when I literally support factory farming!!! Everything we eat, from alive then dead, is 1000x times more inhumane. Of course, eating food for consumption is inherently different than a performance - but I don't have the financial liberty to eat organic, or vegan, and so I'm not hypocritical enough to chase Diana with a 20 meter long flagpole. 
• (I don't think the Northern Hell Kult, the event organizer/label, OK'ed having deer heads brought on stage - it's a huge safety hazard.

Anyways, this is only my opinion and I've never been into hardcore myself. And I was not part of the alternative scene when it was at its peak. So I can't possibly know what it was like but to speculate. I apologize if anything I said is in