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Heyyy!! So I have no one else to talk to this about right now as my family doesn't know. For context, i'm sixteen years old and a girl. I'm a college student (from the UK) and i've had a bumpy five months. After my first heartbreak in October, I was in the library because I had a maths lesson in there and some guy came over and began flirting with me. For the sake of the story, we're gonna called him Purple. Purple was eighteen and wanted my snap, I was shocked that a random guy was flirting with me after I had my first heartbreak a few weeks before. He didn't get my snap on that day but when he saw me the next time I gave him my snap while my friend was next to me. I felt shocked by what I did and was on edge but in a good way. Before Christmas break though, he confessed to me that he had SA allegations aganist him and I while I said I believed in he was innocent deep down I lowkey don't. It stays in my mind a lot and its a confusing story that I won't go into detail about. Now its January and he's nineteen now and i'm obviously still sixteen. He wants to take me out on dates and stuff but i'm still apprehensive, I guess its cause of the last guy I was with.

Thats it - lisa xoxo

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i am 19yo myself and i could not ever think about dating a 16yo
just maturity wise!!!
it is SUUCH a huge differ and you are growing sooo much in that timeframe.
Like imagine you were to date a 13yo. Thats the same feeling.

And besides the allegations,
the fact that he is constantly flirting with you, charming you, seems also quite concerning!!
there is a high likelihood that he has one thing only in his mind,
because proceeding romantically with someone that just subjectively is not in your mental state, does not make no coherent sense.
Also the fact that you are recently out of a relationship makes you more vulnerable to false beliefs.
I do not intend to be mean at all! its just that you are 16.

I hope you are wise about your decisions:) Best fo Luck!

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I completely understand and agree with what your saying. Currently i've been ignoring him completely at school so yeah, i'm not speaking to him. I don't see a future with him.

by xmonsterbixchx; 1738091377; Report

actually really proud of you!
its great to set boundaries and enforce them!
that is a really valuable skill,

by El; 1738111781; Report

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3 year age difference. SA allegations. And your gut says "I don't know this guys intentions."- although i did just looked up the age of consent over there and you're in the clear so get'em tiger if you really desire to. But I'd be doing some research about him before going head first into some bullshit that you didn't exactly bet on during the snap exchange.

Do stay safe though internet stranger- don't want your life to turn into a tragedy play <3

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Thanks I appriciate it! <3

by xmonsterbixchx; 1736969564; Report

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