Teenage Troubles w Jassy: Toxic Relationships

What up yall! Ngll its been a hot lil minute since i've been on here but its 10:07 and i'm a little bored so here we go: toxic relationships. Okay, don't be ashamed to admit it. We've all had at LEAST one type of relationship that has been toxic for us. Doesn't matter if its  friends, significant others, family, or even that random classmate you have unnecessary beef w. So, coming from somebody who's had all sorts of crazy ups and down and ton of toxic relationships (friendships mostly but still counts). So let the amazing jassy help guide you with outstanding advice on something we all are bound to encounter!

Toxic relationships aren't easy to spot everytime but there are a few things that you can look for. This counts for you or somebody that you really care about (gotta keep an eye out for each other yall) so number one:

1.MAKE SURE YALL ARE EQUALS

A lot of times, people might be putting in more effort into certain things than the other person. That's EXACTLY how an unequal relationship works. For example, say that you get paired up in a group for a class project where you end up doing everything. You made the slides, got the resources, and the ONLY person who had the heart to memorize it. Seeing how you were the person that went out of your way to do something all on your own although it was something that was supposed to be done as a collective, your going to feel some sort of way. Now that you understand that feeling and situation, you can help it to evaluate the relationship. Ask yourself: Am I the person that's doing all of the work or not helping out at all, or are we working together? TRUST. ME. Its one of the best ways to evaluate and make changes or the better:))

Now with the understanding of being equal and working together, you then need to understand how YOU are being treated so here we go with number 2:

2. UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS

A few years ago, i was friends with these girls that would go out of their way to ruthlessly tease me, humiliate me, and even make sly microaggressions towards me. Instead of bringing this up to them in a healthy way, i pushed those feelings aside as an attempt to cover it up. That was the ABSOLUTEEE WORST MISTAKE i feel i could've made. Sure they being who they are, would set those claims to the side i were to bring it up, but still recognizing those emotions and at least addressing it would've helped in validating my emotions and how those remarks made me feel. SO my best advice for understanding your emotions is to sit down with yourself and really concentrate how certain things in the relationship make you feel.

So even after doing the first two things, you might be in that toxic relationship and your just stuck on what you should do then. After seeing how you feel and how your being treated, there's a few things left to do:

3. DONT BE SELFISH, USE EMPATHY

Take a second to put yourself in their shoes. Maybe they don't even realize what they are doing is affecting you in a toxic way.  Someone could be so set in how they go throughout their relationships or even grown to know that lots of relationships are like that(which they shouldn't be). Jumping straight to one conclusion without even trying to come to any other decisions may come off as selfish or arrogant which is NOT what we want. Even try talking to that person and asking why they act the way they do or treat you a certain way. It could possibly strengthen and help a relationship get off to a new and improved start!

Well, if all else fails, there's only one thing left you could and should do: end the relationship. Not all things in our lives are meant to be continued. Sometimes people might be around for a few months while others might be around for our entire lives. Letting people go can allow new people to come in and start a new chapter in our lives. So if you do end up cutting someone out of your life or just as that type of relationship yall had, do it in a sincere, respectful way. 

ALRIGHT MY LUVLIESSS <33! Trust me, i'll get a better upload schedule but school can be a bit at sometimes. Anyways feel free to give me feedback! I always have open ears and really want to know what yall think. Stay safe and blessingggssss!!

ttyl:)!-js2jassy