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You ever scroll through social media and see people with like a hundred friends and just think, “Are they even friends?” I mean, sure, it’s cool to have a ton of people to call “friends,” but when I see that, it just doesn’t feel right. I believe friendships should be about quality, not quantity. When you’ve got around 14 people in your circle, each one of them matters a lot more. They’re not just numbers.
Think about it, if something happened to one of those 14, you’d feel it. You’d feel terrible. It would hurt. But if you had for example 112 friends, and one of them disappeared, you’d probably just go, “Meh.” It wouldn’t hit as hard, because they weren’t really a true friend in the first place. They were just a name in a list.
Friendships shouldn’t be something casual. They should take time, effort, and real trust. When you’ve got too many people to keep track of, it’s hard to build that deep connection. You can’t give each person the attention they deserve. And honestly, that’s when friendships start feeling more like shallow acquaintances.
That’s why I’m all for having a smaller group of friends. People you can actually rely on and who you know have your back. If you’re someone who feels the same way, someone who values deep, meaningful connections over a bunch of surface-level ones then I’d love to connect. Feel free to share your thoughts around this topic :)
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trin
very well said. i 1000 percent agree. for me, my classmates have like one billions friends and i too think, "are they even really friends?" i think that most of them just want to be cool and popular. in my school and most others, having more friends, being friends with everybody, got you info, dirt, publicity, everything. i like how you said friendships are not a casual thing. i've always been told that i feel things too deeply- that i take things too seriously. but friendships are like forged bonds. when you have 112 friends, none of those bonds are ever going to be as strong as when you have 14. so yes! quality over quantity!
Maxxie
nah thats real
leftwingzicke
I totally agree! A few years ago I used to always dream of having large friend groups, and I even tried inserting myself into one, but it was later that I realized that having less friends is the way to go. I love investing time into the people I like and if I had more than 10 friends, I wouldn't be able to invest time into each of them equally while also living my own life. I feel like people who need hundreds of friends just want to fill out a void inside them, because thats certainly what I was trying to do when I was looking for huge friend groups
PurgeWicks
im on your side too im on small friend group side all day
tho i have to ask what abt ppl you rarely get to meet & are cool with? i think ppl call these acquaintances but ppl arent either friend or complete stranger ya know? im sure theres some gray area in your thoughts?
Well they are great too! I'm not suggesting being separated from people, those cases don't happen very often anyway for it to matter a lot. I'm talking about how easy it is to become someone's ''friend'' nowadays and how much this one word lost It's value overtime..
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perhaps. personally i view it as either friends or close friends in which the close friends are my more personal group :D
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