There Is No Manual for Love

Falling in love is hard, but falling out of love can be even harder. You try to fix what you can, but there’s no manual for it. There are only so many pieces you can move around, and if even one of those pieces is out of place, your heart feels defective. But maybe the key isn’t in fixing the pieces right away—maybe it’s about understanding why you’re trying to fix them at all.

We have so much love to give that, eventually, it can become selfish. So selfish that we forget to see ourselves. When you love someone deeply, you can become so consumed by their happiness and well-being that you lose sight of your own. In trying to give them everything, you neglect the love you owe yourself. It’s a quiet kind of selfishness, one that slowly erodes the foundation of who you are.

Love isn’t just beautiful—it can be destructive, especially when you fail to face the challenges that come with it. If you don’t address the issues at hand, you risk pushing away the very person you care for. It’s easy to get lost in the struggle, letting the weight of unspoken pain and resistance tear you apart. But destruction isn’t the end; it’s an opportunity to rebuild, to grow through what feels impossible.

When two people are madly in love, it can feel intoxicating—overwhelming, even. But true love isn’t about perfection; it’s about finding ways to endure together. It’s about remembering why you came together in the first place and holding on to what you see in each other, even when things are hard. You endure not because it’s easy, but because you’ve found something in them you’re unwilling to lose.

Flaws will always be there. We see them, we feel them, yet we continue to love. Not because of some idealized version of them, but because of who they truly are. That’s the kind of love that matters—the one that embraces imperfections and keeps choosing to stay.